i was asked to choose between my bf and my family.. i wish it didn't happened coz' at that time, my head wanted to explode and i know how painful it was to my family when i chose my bf and how hard it was for me to choose between them
2006-09-19 22:48:25 · 16 answers · asked by ok 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
been there when younger. my parents have since died but me and my brother still dont talk.
2006-09-19 22:50:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
DOn't choose. Anyone who asks you that doens't care about you. Or was raised without a family or a bad one. No one should ever ask that. If they do they're asking too much. That's a big no no, tell him not to make you choose. I don't care how your family is...they are a part of you. He is trying to isolate you, wants you all to hiself. Is he abusing you? I was married to a man who did exactly that. He made me choose too, and isolated me from my friends and family. It took long to leave that. DOn't make that mistake. Unless this guy is good and your family are a bunch of mass murderers...don't. You can have him and your family too. If he aks this of you he is not worthy of you. If they are both giving you crap. Tell them (BF&Family) you choose neither...and that shame on them for putting you through this.
2006-09-19 22:55:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think its the hardest choice you have to make, but the truth is you shouldn't have to choose. Imagine your lover decided to break up with you...that makes two loses. Anyway I think its the family that should be willing to accept a new person into their family, if they can't then they are selfish.
Families must be understanding in every aspect, if you get hurt they also get hurt in return. Anyway if they put you in a situation like this then they are selfish.
2006-09-19 23:00:24 · answer #3 · answered by Hope2006 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is hard sometimes. One can only get them aquainted with one another along with communication and that may be all that is needed unless there are other issues. Pray about making a right decision and of course if the two of you were married then I would say choose your husband at all cost.
2006-09-19 22:53:40 · answer #4 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes. I chose my family and I am glad that I did because my ex-boyfriend turned out to be a psycho that actually killed himself. Sometimes family know what's best for you. Remember, your family know your heart. They seen you grow from a young girl to a young woman. Therefore they know what type of guy would make you happy and which ones suck. You will eventually see if you made a bad decision or not.
2006-09-19 22:53:09 · answer #5 · answered by LuvAll 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
sometimes families do that but they don't mean it, they are just testing you. don't choose between them, tell them that you can't live without them or your bf. don't do anything you would regret in the future.
I'm in the same situation now & i didn't choose between them. it's not easy on me but what if i choose my bf over my family & then some one of them died, i would regret that for the rest of my life.
2006-09-19 23:01:57 · answer #6 · answered by Bobi 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you're asked to choose then there is nothing to decide, leave your boyfriend, you can't get another family but you can get another boyfriend or persuade your family to see your point of view
2006-09-19 22:53:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think you should neverhave to choose between your family and you love.reason why is because that person/family should ultimately understand where they stand with you. it depends on what type of situation too so this is a difficultquestion to a point.
2006-09-19 23:09:48 · answer #8 · answered by ceymeanie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well when i have to choose between my luv and my parents ,,then i would choose my parents.i have only my mom with me now,its been 10 yrs by now that my father expired and since then she's taking great care of me.she's the one who have thought me the meaning of luv and given meaning to my life.so i would certainly choose my parents.
2006-09-19 22:53:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
family loves no matter what
If your bf loves you, he won't ask you to choose him over your family.
If your family asks you to choose, it's cause they have your interests at heart, without a doubt.
Family always comes through, bf - no guarantee
2006-09-19 22:52:29 · answer #10 · answered by Beth 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
thankfully i never had 2.. but in case it happens, no doubt im gonna choose my family coz nothing in this world is more impt dan my family
2006-09-19 22:56:20 · answer #11 · answered by 2D1iLuV 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋