I am in a 7 yrs long relationship. Altough I think I am happy with my boyfriend, lately I feel attracted to another guy. But both at the same time... Does anyone have the same experience?
2006-09-19 22:37:26 · 21 answers · asked by akroj 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes you can... its natural.. but it depends on how you'll feel if your boyfriend is having the same thoughts...
how u'll feel then?
2006-09-19 23:16:12 · answer #1 · answered by hi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had this experience a couple of years ago. i had been in a relationship for 7 years and then met another guy. Real nice and great and of course i started dating him sort of. i thought i could handle it but the truth is you can't divide your affection between 2 men/women at once. I got caught in the middle and had to pick one person. It was the most terrible decision of my life because i loved the two of them in different ways.
I picked the long term relationship in the end although we broke up eventually. However, I've always wondered what would have happened if I'd chosen the other guy though there is no evidence that that would have worked out but I'm tortured by the question anyway. It's just not worth it. If you want to be with another guy, find out the reasons why and decide if it's enough for you to give up the previous relationship but DON'T date the two of them at once. It will make u miserable eventually.
2006-09-19 22:55:43 · answer #2 · answered by brownsugar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To feel love is always a good thing, however you must also know yourself and know what you want for you as well as what do you expect from a relationship with someone. A relationship is a way of sharing a portion of yourself with someone you love. The relationship should be growing deeper with time. If this is not happening perhaps your unconscious mind is searching around for something you feel you are missing even if you are not aware of it. Write in a piece of paper a list of all the qualities you like about this person and next to it a why you think he has this qualities. Chances are you will find that there is something in that list you do not see in the person you are with now. Maybe this is not something he does not have but rather something he is not sharing with you. Something you could ask for in your present relationship. Communication is always a key.
2006-09-19 23:02:51 · answer #3 · answered by Blau 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where is is written that you cannot love more than one person? Your relationship with anyone is also about your relationship with yourself. Love is just love, but people make the mistake in not understanding that relationships come in different forms. Anytime you use something for your own purposes it will hurt you. . The ego mind believes that our salvation does not lie in loving everybody, but rather we start to believe that there is this perfect person which causes us to leave out the rest of mankind and to that extent you will be in hell no matter what they do if you wait long enough. However, three in a romantic type relationship becomes a little crowded and sooner or later one goes. So you need to ask yourself do you want to leave this 7 year relationship?
2006-09-19 23:03:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's OK to feel. It's very normal infact.
Yikes. The 7-year itch!
Try not to throw away a good man (i assume he is one) just for a fleeting feeling of attraction for someone else.
People all over the world make the same mistake ..and live to regret it after. So you're in a good place now to make the right choices.
2006-09-19 22:43:16 · answer #5 · answered by Beth 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No its not okay to love two guys at the same time. I think you really love the first guy cause you sacrifised 7yrs of your life to be with him.The 2nd one is definately a crush of some sort. maybe there is something missing in the first guy that you found in the second guy, maybe you want fun or you are trying to fill in the gap with yr boyfreind.If you had to chose one which would it be...see the pros and cons.
2006-09-19 22:51:40 · answer #6 · answered by Hope2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing at all wrong with feeling love for two people at once. Acting on it is a different story.
Think very, very carefully before you proceed. Unless your boyfriend is one of those guys who approves of your being involved with another guy, you owe it to him to break off your current relationship before you get involved with anyone new.
If this new guy isn't worth breaking off your current relationship, then forget about him. Stick with what you've got.
2006-09-19 22:42:17 · answer #7 · answered by Bramblyspam 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I beleive the logical side of you cares for your bf since you feel the need to be loyal and caring for him as part of the relationship you are in with him. The other side of you comes from your heart where you feel your love lies.
Be extremely careful in dealing with this as you may realise that the other guy is not where your heart is really at home at which point it may be too late.
2006-09-19 22:44:03 · answer #8 · answered by Claude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u know what? u can't control ur heart who 2 olve and 2 hate all the time but u can't love some 1 else during ur long relation ship with the other guy unless u tell him and u r sure about the other's guy feeling about u
2006-09-19 22:48:34 · answer #9 · answered by Cool Muslim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not wrong to feel love for two men at the same time....But according to me you need to define them immediately...Its not possible for you to have both of them together and might raise to conflicts...So it would be upto you to define the love you feel....
2006-09-19 22:43:27 · answer #10 · answered by Mank 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes ..been thru it..at that time i thought i was in love with both the guys..turned out that i was in love with only my bf at that time..the other was just an infatuation which got over..
my advice to u is take it easy...dont take any hasty decisions...you have given 7 yrs of ur life to a relationship...the other fellow might just be a crush..coz its clear that u love ur guy...
the infatuation will eventually pass over...
tc..
2006-09-19 22:51:31 · answer #11 · answered by v v 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋