It's become quite obsessive compulsive. I know within my hear of hearts that this man loves me. When I first met him I was going through a painful miscarriage and he was have familial problems causing him to withdraw from. One of his freinds and her best friend tell me that he has been with this friends friend for three weeks. I ask all sorts of questions at this point and they can't answer any of them. They seem to be trying to hard to get me to leave him. I don't know either of these people but I do know him. I gave him the benefit of doubt and trusted that he did not sleep with this women. I beleive deep inside that he didn't but I often find myself obsessing over the situation. It has been a few months I just want to stop this before it ruins my relationship. How do I get rid of my obsession with droning on and on about somthing that has passed? I'm a little worried that this might be obsessive compulsive?
2006-09-19 21:06:58 · 9 answers · asked by Redhead with love 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Its best sometimes to let the past stay in the past sometimes you may feel like you will never have closure but you will one day everything happens for a reason for tha good or bad.It's just what you make of the situation. but you also have to realize every guy is not going to be the same as your ex'es. Speakin from experience if you dwell in the past you will never be able to move forward in life and you push the one you love away. So move forward tomorrows always a new day to get a new attitude Also do'nt believe what anyone else has to say unless you see it with your on eyes. If you have Faith Pray to god and let him handle your situations it will all work out for the better
2006-09-19 21:29:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To stop obsessing over any thing is to let it go and move on with your life. No one can live in the past and always remember the past is the past.
Just give it a try and see what happens.
2006-09-19 21:14:34 · answer #2 · answered by Preacher's Daughter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't trust him, then what kind of relationship can you have? If there's a problem, with you or him, then just move on. Trying to force yourself to stay with someone when it makes you unhappy isn't noble sacrifice for love, it's begging after the contract has already been broken. You shouldn't have to just feel his love in your "heart of hearts," you should see it every day.
2006-09-19 21:13:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are normal. that is what you are.
nothing wrong with you at all. you just don't want to be made a fool of. that is all. take it easy and think long and hard. can you really stay with him, it is not going to go away with time. it is always going to be there. If you stay with him and never investigate the real truth of the situation . your choice. me, I have done what you are doing and I chose to not want to know. I was totally a fool for doing that . I was made a fool of by the man who did love me. he just loved himself more.
2006-09-19 21:20:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to fill your life with productive activities. Concentrate on work/school, whatever it is you do. Re-focus, exercise, read books. Failing that and you feel you are past self help, go see your GP and ask to see a counsellor.
2006-09-19 21:14:01 · answer #5 · answered by Saskia M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's so hard to put a relationship behind you and easier still to let it take over your every thought.
Keep busy and active is all I can advise.
Don't be idle enough to let yourself dwell on it.
2006-09-19 21:21:42 · answer #6 · answered by Yellowstonedogs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to know whether he slept with her, ask him. however, since you aren't married and in fact weren't even dating at the time he isn't obligated to be faithful to you, its really none of your business. Get over it. I think you are blaming him for your miscarriage.
2006-09-19 22:41:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
cmon don't waste your time with these and get anxious...just live your life and your new experieces with your man..past is past!:D
2006-09-19 21:13:28 · answer #8 · answered by yippee_hey 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get laid. Start over.
2006-09-19 21:16:12 · answer #9 · answered by MaqAtak 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋