2006-09-19 21:05:50 · 20 answers · asked by wife of Ali Pasha 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
JUST say NO.Then lock her in her room till she is 18.
2006-09-19 21:10:31 · answer #1 · answered by eva b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh. My.
I think she maybe feels like this is real love, but at 16 she needs to ask herself if she can handle it.
Maybe get her to do the household budget for a month (make up a mock one). Ask her to see if she can, over a period of time, keep the house liveable, clean clothes, all while going to school/work etc. If she is really serious then maybe she can spend some time with some people in the local area that are young and married, so see if they can give her some perspective.
If there is a pregnancy involved then get her to spend some time with some young mothers (every town has them) and get her to stay with them over night - waking up for a breastfeed at 2am and 4am is a lot different to getting home at 4am!
Good luck..
2006-09-20 04:16:14 · answer #2 · answered by sydneygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By golly, I would let her! Why? Because if she insists on wanting to be in the adult world, don't stand in her way! It won't take long for her to figure out how hard life is and what better way than to let her live it. Just don't be duped into helping them when they cant afford to live on their own. I work with teenagers and believe in letting the kids find out the hard way so it wont be so bad when they hit 18 and come to the realization that nobody gives a rats butt how you feel. Mind as well get the reality shock over with now. Because if you don't let them do as they wish, she will hate you for it anyway. Well a teenager doesn't need much to make them resentful but they will eventually get over it. Let them go and play house! Life will be the best reality check they ever had!
2006-09-20 04:12:28 · answer #3 · answered by soniaatcalifornia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd have a fit knowing i had a sixteen year old daughter (I'd think shiiiiiite....what was I on when i was 4-5 to do that????).
In serious regards i'd say, that's good? how are you going to pay for it? how are you going to live together? what are your future plans - drop out of school and become a house cleaner...etc. ? If that doesn't work, ask is he good in bed?, does he lose his temper? what is he like? When she realises that she should wait a few years and this ain't the best time, she will change her mind.
2006-09-20 04:10:37 · answer #4 · answered by tzeentchau 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would tell her that there is a reason the law states she has to be 18 to be married without parental permission. i would tell her if she still feels the same way she does now when she's 18 that she can marry at that time. My daughter wanted to get married at 17, i wouldn't allow it and told her the same thing as above. then when she turned 18- she was pregnant by him and miscarried the baby and he split up with her and started dating some trashy girl. She's better off without him, but she needed to grow up first.
2006-09-20 04:15:03 · answer #5 · answered by tiggerkitty3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to her and ask her what her reasoning was... Find out why she feels the need to get married at 16 are there mitigating circumstances (pregnancy) How do she and the boy plan to support themselves...
I would ask a ton of questions while trying to remain non-judgemental.. When my daughter was 16 she was very level headed and always had reasoning behind ever action... If she wanted to get married she would have had level headed reasons for wanting to do so...
2006-09-20 04:11:58 · answer #6 · answered by Diane (PFLAG) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for starter that you should sit down with your daughter and the guy that she married in a nice fashion way as a grow adult way.
like once you are married. thing well change. like live together and put up with each other problem. if thing done work out like a divorce then they are on there only.
trying to said is that if they would not listien or work things out then let them learn the hard way.
2006-09-20 04:16:01 · answer #7 · answered by jwtaz1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray that she was just kidding. I honestly don't know what I would do. I have 2 daughters 10 & 3. And I am dreading them dating, let alone them thinking about marriage.
2006-09-20 04:10:41 · answer #8 · answered by Kali_girl825 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a mother you are in better postion to sit with her and explain what marriage is all about. Your child may have confused marriage with physical relationship. There must have been a disconnect between parents and child about the way they interact with each other. Your child may require more love from her parents.
No point in getting angry with her, you need to reason with her. Probably she is not busy with her education like other children, you may have to divert her attention to her education.
Of course as a mother you need to worry a lot about your child and be aware of her needs and attend to it.
All of us have past this age and derive the experience your parents did when you were young.
If you are living in a free society where pre-martial sex is not taboo and sex education is available, you may expose her to it and differentiate it with marriage.
2006-09-20 04:23:57 · answer #9 · answered by Sampath K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would make her or tell her to wait at sixteen your daughter should be having fun not tying herself down to someone she should wait it out and if she wont listen then i guess there isnt anything you can really do but let her find out the hard way...
hope she makes the right decission..... goodluck
2006-09-20 04:11:00 · answer #10 · answered by mimi rose 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her she is way too young and have a word with the boy and his parents .Maybe if they all got together this would stop.If that didn't work I would lock her in her room until she is 21. lol
2006-09-20 04:11:16 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋