Like when they re with you they say something like " If you ever leave me, I ll die" or it just looks like they ll go the deep end if you break up... And you can't leave because you really care for them but pretty sure you're not in love with them
What should you do
2006-09-19 20:38:57 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Leave him a good by Charlie note and a razor blade to boot!
2006-09-19 20:40:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It happened to me twice. The first i walk on and he hasn't died yet but he's married with a child.
My second experience, well he didn't exactly say that he will die but i felt like something bad will happen'd to him if i leave. He was seriously ill at that time and i just couldn't leave him. And after six years we are still together despite i know am not in love. And now, he feels he can't leave me as i won't be able to face life without him!!!
Don't let someone emotionally blackmail you. Take your decision now coz now is the right time and if you stay with that guy, you will never find the right time. Be courageous and heartless. No compromising with your life.
2006-09-20 04:03:38 · answer #2 · answered by Saphire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this happened to me with my fiance. we got into a big fight, i threw all of his crap outside in trash bags, and he pulled the suicide card.. it worked.. i stayed with him.. we had a hell of a rocky year or so. i am glad i did.. he did do a stupid, stupid thing, but we work well together and we managed to work out our problems. looking back now at our rocky times, i dont know how we ever made it through, but we did and we're stronger and closer than ever. i feel better about things too. i know that when we finally do get married, that we will both stick by each other through thick and thin. i know when times get tough, we will always be able to work them out. it is a very comforting and reassuring feeling.
but i think my situation is probably rare.. he just went out for a night out without telling me, i thought the worst, had a horrible panic attack, found out and got pissed over being so emotional, and left a breakup message on his phone.
if things are bad in your relationship, if you are being abused in other ways emotionally or physically or if you worry that he might do a murder/suicide thing, you might wanna pack your stuff up and move in with parents, siblings, or close friend for a little while.
i would highly suggest that you two start counseling somewhere. try and see if you can afford or if insurance will pay for couples therapy or seek the advice and council of a priest/pastor/rabi/etc.
2006-09-20 04:13:49 · answer #3 · answered by .jess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called manipulation. My ex bf did that to me. He always said he will commit suicide if I leave him and he was quite reckless and self destructing. I was with him for 3 years, which half of the time, I didn't want to be with him anymore, but I couldnt bare to have something like that on my conscious. I was really afraid he would do something stupid. Later I decided that if he did something like that it is not my fault and that I have a right to be with whom I want and do what I want, not what makes him happy.Dont let someone manipulate you into it. People deal with problems and heartbreaks all their life, they must deal with it, not make someone else worry about your well being.
2006-09-20 03:49:43 · answer #4 · answered by Jade22 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your relationship hasn't gone that long to be on deep waters of history together - why would he die? Sounds like a manipulative tactic to me.
Trust me, I've heard that line before - and when I showed that I didn't care and continued to walk away, the guy didn't do anything.
2006-09-20 03:42:43 · answer #5 · answered by calofficer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most of the guys who do that ...it's because they are tying to manipulate the other person....in your case you can not be responsible for what he will do after you left him...that is like being in a destroying relationship because if you do not left him you will destroy yourself because you will be with a person you do not love anymore and that is not fear for you or either him...he sounds very inmature to say something like that ...I rather to say inmature than to say he is mental sick ...as that is what sick people thinks when they are getting dumped .....if he is mentally ill what makes you think that he will not do it now that he is with you .....also do not let him manipulate you that way because just by doing that I can see why you do not want to keep having a relationship with a person like him
2006-09-20 03:49:17 · answer #6 · answered by Yami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes that happened to me once and its a rotten feeling, That person that makes those threats has a hard time dealing with reality. Its very sad.
2006-09-20 03:43:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. May sound heartless but if they are suicidal at the thoughts of losing you, they have deeper issues. You don't stay in a relationship if you aren't happy in it or is it fulfilling for both of you.
2006-09-20 03:41:50 · answer #8 · answered by davester1970 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah.. it happened to me! He threatened to kill himself right there if I leave him. Till today I am still with him fearing that he would kill himself. But life fate twisted after I went back to him, he was discovered with illness that will not make him live long enuf!
Twisted Fate...!
2006-09-20 03:44:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
.I WAS MARRIED TO A MAN . I WILL JUST SAY OVER 15 YEARS . HE WENT OUT ON ME THE WHOLE TIME . FROM DAY ONE . BUT I WOULD STILL HEAR .- I WILL- KILL MY SELF, IF YOU DIVORCE ME . HE LIKED,TO HAVE, KILLED ME WITH THAT -BULL-FOR 2 YEARS AFTER WE DIVORCED .AFTER HE HAD ABOUT 20 MORE FEMALES /WITH RINGS ON THERE FINGERS . THEN HE MARRIED 2 OF THEM . HE FINLEY STOP ED CALLING ME . THANK GOD . YOU GO ON WITH YOUR LIFE . AND DON'T DO WHAT I DID .
2006-09-20 04:02:44 · answer #10 · answered by tia c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋