i am 22 she is 18 and has been with my brother-in-law for 4 years but married only 1. they got married only because she was pregnant. while pregnant he seemed to loose interest in her. and now 5 months after the baby was born he has even less interest in her needs. she has tried to talk to him and all he has to say is he is tired. i have been with my wife for 5 years now and married for 4 of them. her sex drive has decrased very much. i have tried to get her to see a doctor but she will not! i have offered to go with her. i love her and do not want to leave her because i know it will hert her, but i still enjoy and need sex very much! lately there has been a lot of flirting between me and my brother-in -law's wife. i would realy like to have the sex as well as she has been almost a year sence her husband has gave her the needed attention. PLEASE HELP!
2006-09-19 20:29:55 · 22 answers · asked by help 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
up to u man.
if u wana take it as a one-off thingy then just leave it at that. just one lustful night n that's it.
but u have to think again. this girl is only 18. she might mistaken ur lust for love n attention that she is now craving from her husband.
it's gona get messy if u sleep with her. but its all up to u dude.
moral VS ur lust for her.
i'd say BE SHALLOW for once, n do it. haha!
2006-09-19 20:53:19 · answer #1 · answered by keira 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not your job to fulfill your brother-in-law's wife
The flirting has got to stop.
You said you won't leave your wife because you don't want to hurt her.
Don't you think sleeping with another women will hurt her?
Not to mention hurt your brother-in-law.
Both you and your brother-in-law's wife are being very selfish
only thinking about your own wants and needs.
I don't think lack of sex is the problem in your relationship.
When you love someone cheating is never an option.
If you cheat on your wife you've already ended the marriage.
No one said marriage was going to be easy it take a lot of work
to have a lasting,LOVING ,TRUSTING marriage.
If you can't stay faithful to your wife get a divorce.Having an affair
will just make matters worse for you and everyone involved.
2006-09-20 03:54:32 · answer #2 · answered by kandn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is great and I understand your urge. However, if this is your brother in law's wife, lets just say you have sex with her... think beyond the point of the sex... would you feel guilty afterwords? If found out, this would cause a lot of family issues.
Also, since you are married and love your wife, keep trying with her. Do something romantic to set the mood... a new lingerie outfit, candlelight, toys...
2006-09-20 03:38:33 · answer #3 · answered by mariposa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Adultery is not the answer, seek professional help with your wife. Are you willing to break up 2 marriages for the sake of your sex drive? Does this not strike you as being odd? Masturbate if you must but dont cheat.
2006-09-20 03:35:21 · answer #4 · answered by Claude 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tough situation..but, if I were you, I wouldnt do it. Coz, you love your wife and your wife loves you..so, if you go ahead with this woman, you will hurt your wife.
Also, what guarantees that this woman also wont lose her drive after sometime. If it happens, will you go after a new woman?
Talk to your wife and tell her your needs and see how best you both can improve the situation...
All the best!!
2006-09-20 03:35:43 · answer #5 · answered by vani3624 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so you want to sleep with your wife's sister?..
1) you're married!
2) she is married!
3) she is your friggen sister-in-law!!
in what world is this ok??
if they are having problems in your marriage, there is nothing you can do about it. they need to figure out on their own how to improve it. by sleeping with her, you're not only jeopardizing her relationship but also you're own. have you stopped to think about how your wife would feel if she found out?
i think both couples need to go into marriage counseling. they have their problems to work out and it sounds like you have issues with your marriage that you need to work out.
if you want to sleep with her so badly, at least wait until BOTH of you have had a divorce. it sounds to me like all of you got married WAY too young. none of you seem emotionally mature enough to handle the seriousness of marriage.
2006-09-20 03:38:13 · answer #6 · answered by .jess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be one step back, think about the over all situation u will feel guilty.
now u can correct and fix your faults and give extra care to your wife but if u wait more time u will spoil tow family and hurt them for ever .
2006-09-20 03:42:26 · answer #7 · answered by mido2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DUH, you are married and so is she, plus you are related in a way, if you are so horny jack off or divorce your wife and find another but give your wife the respect if you love her as you say. if you have sex with your brother in law wife well you are an idiot and so is she
2006-09-20 03:37:10 · answer #8 · answered by paki 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont do it man, you will regret it for the rest of your life if they work out for the duration, in your mind you will always be thinking when will she tell him that we had sex. you dont need that on your concious. their is plenty of women out their that will smoke your meat for entertainment if you gotta go outside of your home an wife. be careful, an good luck
2006-09-20 03:44:59 · answer #9 · answered by 84_4X4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's wrong to sleep with her it would cause big time trouble if you get caught not just for you but for your brother in law and his wife and in your marriage also please don't do it if you need to have sex that badly just go in the restroom and master bate
2006-09-20 03:39:29 · answer #10 · answered by Brooke 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋