what do you guys think about a 21 yr old who claims that the reason she cant get a job is cause she does not have a car!!!!! now where i reside yes u need a car but she had her own place , were the busses ran right at the corner and was asked to leave cause seh had her friends drinking and hanging out all hours of the night, the two years she lived there she went through about 5 jobs... now she has no job no where to stay and shacked up with me and I constantly find myself irritated with her cause she wont hel clean anything in the house, she wants to eat poop and sleep, i work full time and study full time....i tell her get a job she says she needs a car, i say i am not buying you a car. she has till the end of the month job no job/ apartment or no apartment i have had it with her oooooooh and she does not respect the house rules...
2006-09-19 20:17:20 · 8 answers · asked by brklyn_angel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
people will use you as long as you let them you need to stop enabling her you are to blame for letting her take advantage of you you need to put an end too it now before it gets even worse she will never learn about real life if you keep babying her
2006-09-19 20:31:55 · answer #1 · answered by simplehoneylove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! Your hands are full and your work really cut out for you!!!
There must be something else really disturbing her deep inside and she's on a self-destructive path.
You may want to intervene and have a heart-to-heart long talk with her before you give the ultimatum of kicking her out. This session is not just going to be a one-day thing, you know. You may really need to sit down with her a couple of times to find out the truth.
I understand that you're busy. I recommend that you give at least a good four-hour investment on her life for one day at a time.
2006-09-20 03:35:09 · answer #2 · answered by calofficer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her a car. Then let her go out and dont offer to let her come back. Ive noticed that most young adults with cars, that have jobs...they keep their jobs because they have a car...become more responsible with reliable transportation and encouragement. You are the parent and probably lacked something in your parenting skills for this child. Still a child.
2006-09-20 03:36:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with you. she can go live with the people who got her kicked out of her place. do it soon or shell never leave.
2006-09-20 03:25:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
eat poop and sleep, huh? time to kick her to the curb.
2006-09-20 03:20:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wher can I find a girl like that, call me, I'll take her off of your hands
2006-09-20 03:20:57 · answer #6 · answered by captcruzer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wake up and wake her up too.
2006-09-20 03:24:14 · answer #7 · answered by aftab24ff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone has to grow up some time .........
2006-09-20 03:21:52 · answer #8 · answered by sindi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋