My sister is 32 and going through a divorce after 9 years of marriage. They did not have kids because they wanted to focus on their careers. It has been 6 months since her soon to be Ex moved out. And my sister was handeling it rather well until she found out that he was dating again. Now she is letting it run her life. She calls me at least a dozen times a day, has missed a lot of work, and quite frankly is starting to look like crap. I have tried every thing I know how to help her. My biggest problem now is she calls me at work. This is a problem because I am a registered nurse and work in the emergency room. So it a little hard to leave a patient to take a call from her. Even my kids know that you only call mom at work if it is an emergency. I have asked her not to call but she will not stop. I can't ignore her calls because when I recieve a phone page I don't know if it is an internal hospital call or an outside line. What can I do to get through to her. I don't want to hurt her.
2006-09-19 20:01:34 · 7 answers · asked by Kali_girl825 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Get some family members and friends together and hold an intervention. She needs professional help and can't keep sucking you dry. It's for her own good.
2006-09-19 20:05:05 · answer #1 · answered by LouiseMe 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just explain it to her exactly the way you did hear. She will understand I'm sure . make an agreement with her that if she feels she cant go on without talking to you through the whole work day ask her to call at your lunch break. So that you don't get reprimanded. suggest a support group this will allow her to share with others and take the burden off of you as well.
2006-09-19 20:09:52 · answer #2 · answered by JodiBaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you have a day/night off take your sister out and have a great time, life goes on kind of thing. Tell her to stop calling you at work unless it is an emergency before she causes you to lose your job.
2006-09-19 20:05:21 · answer #3 · answered by up2sumpthun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be compassionate and straight forward at the same time . . .
Say during long hug
"While I do have to save lives between (insert schedule here), I want you to know that I love you so much and will always have a shoulder for you to lay your head."
or something along those lines . . .
OR
Just rent all the women surviving a crappy marriage movies
under the tuscan sun (only one I can think of)
maybe she'll be inspired and pick her as.s off the ground and move forward.
2006-09-19 20:06:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she needs to grow up. Have a different set of phone numbers. Use the second one for emgercnies but don't give that one to your sister since she already has the first one. Get a pager if you have one.
2006-09-19 20:05:40 · answer #5 · answered by l2wh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to tell her to stop... You must be a wonderful listener, can i adopt you???? Do it in a nice loving way, she is hurting sooooo bad, but her calling you at work is pushing things a wee bit to far...Good luck with sis.....
2006-09-19 20:23:44 · answer #6 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be there for her. tell her that you love her.
2006-09-19 20:24:28 · answer #7 · answered by dark^wishy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋