...Why so many homosexuals insist that I am going to fail at being celibate?
Why do they assume that I'm just going to snap one day and run off to find a female lover?
(Many people who answered my last question posted their answers before they read my EDIT that spoke of my own experiences. Just so you know.)
2006-09-19 19:29:13 · 27 answers · asked by Dysthymia 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I don't care what people think, it's just that I've gotten that response so often that I've gotten curious as to why some (not all) people say it...
2006-09-19 19:33:08 · update #1
To answer one of the "answerers":
I do not "sexually relieve" myself. Doing so makes it exponentially harder to stay celibate because it keeps the sex drive in "active" mode instead of "dormant" mode.
But don't worry, I'm a female so I don't have to worry about Prostate problems.
2006-09-19 19:52:29 · update #2
Probably the same reasons heterosexuals think other heterosexuals can't be celibate. Apparently they can't believe someone would willingly not have sex.
2006-09-19 19:32:08 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you will. If you choose to live a celibate life, more power to you, especially if you are offering it as a sacrifice to whatever deity you believe in. Celibacy is a difficult road to follow, even if for a greater cause. May you find the strength to continue your devotion to this goal, if this is truly a goal you desire.
I am a homosexual as well, I don't choose a celibate life, but I'm looking for a monogamous relationship. Not easy at times but hey, life happens. :) Keep your wits about you and don't let anyone bring you down for making the choices that are meaningful to you.
2006-09-19 19:36:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Who was it that said that later in life you will not regret the things that you did do, but the things that you didn't do? Sound advice for all methinks.
As you have placed this in the religious category I am assuming that you are thinking that it is wrong to be gay because of some religious laws - yet you say that you are gay. Therefore in God's eyes you will be judged. See the problem with this? If you choose to live a celibate life it does not change the fact that you are homosexual.
Life is too short for all these feelings of guilt and laws and crap - you have revealed your true identity yet chosen to deny it - therefore you are not being true to yourself, which I daresay in your religion is not being true to God.
2006-09-19 19:44:09 · answer #3 · answered by LadyRebecca 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i do no longer assume you will fail at being celibate. I purely think of you're psychologically and bodily torturing your self over some bullsh*t somebody spewed which you have fallen for. you would be celibate, yet i think of you isn't satisfied.
2016-10-17 07:50:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're just doing it for the sake of not being mocked or judged by your sexual preference, yes, I think you'll fail. Because you're just living your life according to the standards of other people by depriving yourself to pleasures that you, yourself deserves. Take note that no matter how hard you try to please everyone, there's always a person that won't be satisfied, it's you. But if you're doing it just because you believe that it's the right thing. Fine, go ahead, but believe me, it's gonna be tough.
I'm also a homosexual, though I'm still virgin, I'm not caging myself into something others want me to be.
2006-09-19 20:03:51 · answer #5 · answered by peperoni 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
you know it really doesnt matter your preference they say that to us who are straight that we can not hold out i have a friend that has been celibant for 9yrs another for 4 and i had went 3 almost four. it all depends on the persons will. we all know that the flesh is weak, but the mind can be stronger. if you have made up in your mind that you want to preserve yourself than i believe you can. they think not cause they cant.
2006-09-19 21:09:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im not a homosexual and i live alone. Im not hard to look at i just prefer my own space. Sex doesn't need to be the driving force in anyones life. If your happy who cares what other people think Why are they worried if your not sexually active.
2006-09-19 19:34:06 · answer #7 · answered by timex846 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
How come you have decided to become celibate? I see nothing wrong in you being gay, nor do I find anything wrong by you choosing to be celibate. I was merely curious as to why?
2006-09-20 06:22:41 · answer #8 · answered by Seph7 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since we are anonymous here, may I then ask how you sexually relieved yourself? Because according to a study releasing that urge is good way of de-stressing.
For men,celibacy means prostrate cancer in the future, likelihood.
Pls. don't be embarassed.
2006-09-19 19:47:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am SO impressed with your resolve, and I DO think you can do it if you make up your mind and with God's help. Purity is a very freeing, integrity-full way of life once you get used to it. You seem to value trying to go that path -- that's half the battle, believing it's worth it.
I'm a divorced Christian woman, and my belief is that since I'm not married, God wants ME to be celibate, too, until and unless I am married. With his help, I have not had sex in over six years, and not masturbated in over four years. And I'm happier in who I am than most people. I am not lacking in emotions or hormones, I just have good self-control over my body, like a well-trained athlete, and under the right circumstances, that's its own reward.
2006-09-19 19:34:27 · answer #10 · answered by catintrepid 5 · 3⤊ 3⤋