wat if your girlfriend is very shy while u guys get physical everytime...will u like it or no? im 19 yr old female actually im quite shy n cant even look into my boyfriend's eyes specially when v r intimate with eachother!!
2006-09-19 19:20:26 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im comfortable wid him, but the only thing is im very shy...is this a turn off to guys..??
2006-09-19 21:02:39 · update #1
If your unable to look into his eyes, what's really wrong? I can't speak for you but I can tell you that I know every 1/4 inch of my ladies body and I'm working on her soul. Well enough to say she has 3 gold specks on the hazel in her left eye and 7 on the right.
Work on trying to be comfortable with each other. This guy you are attracted to may not be your match. I AM NOT SAYING HE'S NOT, but somewhere along the way you have to relax and be you.
That eye contact your avoiding is something I cherish. That's when we really connect with each other in bed or out. What your really saying is I can't connect with him.
Find why you can't connect with him or allow yourself to relax and be with him without your guard going up. Are you ashamed of something or something your doing or he's doing. The shyness and lack of connecting is the symptom not the problem.
Try this... next time your feeling couragous and wanting to be intimate. One rule - Nothing happens fast. Spend the time to enjoy and learn about both of you. Have sex with all the lights on and spending a real long time just feeling eachothers bodies and exploring. When he approaches an area that makes you feel a little uncomfortable try not to stop him but make a mental note to think about it later. You'll be amazed at the things you learn and the pleasures and desires that will develop along the way.
Good luck and happy exploring.
2006-09-19 19:44:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some believe this to be a violation of space. We don't remember much as being children , but when we look back on our selves , there we are running around naked as jay birds. Then we hit puberty & suddenly we are very private about the changes going on in our bodies, then doors get locked & we become sensitive from the comments of others towards our sexuality. So when we become aware of the pleasures we can create ,from these changes we seek someone to share this with. We do not automatically have knowledge on how to create these sensations so first meetings are serious groping affairs, finding buttons & triggers in your partner to elicit a sexual response. Some can be very aggresive & some passive. You appear passive. This is not a bad thing & as with all things in life we learn something new every day. Learn what pleases your partner & tell him what pleases you & be patient. Everyone wants to learn everything at once , wheras , we have the rest of our lives to learn & patience is the key. So what if you don't look in his eyes during intimacy , if he knows thru your communications that he is the 1 you want to be with , then hopefully it will not be a big deal to him. Good luck & please be careful.
2006-09-20 02:38:52 · answer #2 · answered by RickeTy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The shyness is cute for a while but a guy could begin to see your shyness as a lack of trust on your part. Know this... men love women and love being with women. I am sure that your lover worships everything about you... so sneak a peak at his face... and soon you will be staring at him with bedroom eyes. Remember this too... women are the ones most critical of your bodies. You can believe this... when you are intimate with your man you are his dream... he has been thinking of you all day. Flash him a smile that let's him know that you can turn him into putty.
2006-09-20 02:29:47 · answer #3 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heyy
I am 19 too and I am kind of shy of a person when I am with my man (though we aren't having sex). It's a combination of shyness but at the same time I am confortable with him. I trust him a lot but I just can't help feeling shy lol I think he likes it but I am feeling less intimidated by him more and more so it's all good. Just talk to him about it.
Good luck
2006-09-20 02:28:48 · answer #4 · answered by anesziere 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, there's gotta be some sort of touching first. Like put your arms around his neck, or maybe a hug. Gotta have an expression on your face that you wanna kiss him, just don't talk and go for it.
Most important thing of all, there's gotta be touch. Not groping but maybe a gentle hug. Then work you way up from there.
2006-09-20 02:25:59 · answer #5 · answered by Leonardo M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im not a guy but i used to be shy, u just have to get comfortable with what you do and that will solve your problem...soon as u get confident with the way u kiss, etc etc....things will go just fine
2006-09-20 02:23:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a guy always try to hurry on the physical intimacy part(thats in our nature) but dont fall for it till you absolutely comfortable with it. Afterwards you will regret it.
2006-09-20 02:33:01 · answer #7 · answered by amit m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is exciting for a guy to see his gf getting shy by his movements... but this is a temporary phase you will soon be free of it..
2006-09-20 02:28:53 · answer #8 · answered by CosmicLight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
o comme on u are 19 u have to do it some day
2006-09-20 02:23:55 · answer #9 · answered by playcruel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it would be a total turn on,makes u seem innocent
2006-09-20 02:29:08 · answer #10 · answered by liljimis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋