I have got married for 2 years now and have an eight months old baby also.
In this 2 years apart from my wife's pregnency period, we had sexual intercourse for not more than 20 times.
Always she behave as if she is not well. We had intercourse only once after her delivery. She never shows any interest.
I wonder whether all woman are like this.
But i have heard woman is more interested in sexuality than man. Why could she act like this?
Would woman normally interested in sexuality during these age and stage?
Can you please help me by sharing your opinion or suggestions or experiance?
2006-09-19 19:17:05 · 11 answers · asked by Tom T 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Dear Husband,
I think the problem is with u and not with your wife. Do you realise the following:
How much your wife has gone through mentally and physically.
How much of problems she is facing now.
How much are u helping her in the upbringing of the Child (have you ever cleaned the child after potty, ever changed his nappy, Have you ever woke up in the night when he cries ?
If my guess is right the answers to all this must be a big NO and on top if you are not in the joint family she must also be involved in looking after the house and cooking too ?.
Try doing all the above just for one day, I assure leave alone having sex, you will forget the meaning of Sex also. Please wake up.
Making love to your wife is a very important ritual and it takes two to tango. Help her and see the results.
2006-09-23 00:46:14 · answer #1 · answered by Rahul 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she may have had a difficult delivery and that would have put her off. Also is she feeling tired looking after the baby the whole day and the household work. Then show her some consideration. Even devoted mothers need some break.give her some break get someone else or you take care of the baby some time everyday so that she gets time for herself. get a blood test also to see if she has got sugar.
2006-09-19 21:18:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not from India and I don't think that has anything to do with it. Pregnancy can change a woman's hormone levels, and that is what regulates a woman's sex drive. Also being up at night with a baby and then caring for it during the day, plus everything else most women do can be exhausting.Your wife may just be tired! Pay extra attention to her, offer to help her with the baby more than you are. Bring her flowers and give her a massage after a nice hot bath that you fixed for her. Set the mood for sex.
2006-09-19 19:31:18 · answer #3 · answered by missmoon_1953 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
my dear friend it is a clear case of the lady not finding any benifit from sex, remember the cat alone is insufficient, the other important ingredients are : COMMUNICATION, KNOWING LIKES AND DISLIKE, FOREPLAY, ENSURE SHE REACHES ORGASM.
why dont you try oral and pleasure her up, if it still doesnt work then it could be some mental pressure /tension which may you are aware of but are not attending to it. Take some time out and analyse your behaviour towards her and listen carefully to what she says when she is upset or angry, dont say anything just listen, often the issue is in front of you but you might have felt that it is not such an issue to be considered serious, check into the minutest things. Good wishes.
2006-09-22 08:57:36 · answer #4 · answered by prashanth m 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
all females are not like this..some are very active and some are less..u need ask her what her problem is as i think she is not interested because either she heard bad things about it before she got married or she never feels comfortable during it or may be in the past she might have had some problem related to this..one of my friend was also facing the same problem and she was not at all interested in intercourse...later her husband came to know that she was not interested because she had heard very bad things about it like being very painful and she made up her mind that it is going to be painful only..v took her to doctor and got her councelled as to its not the case with everybody..different females ve different experiences in this..some ve very good and some bad..
most important is to enjoy it and not to think at that time that its bad and painful and i cant enjoy it. it all depends upon partner too..dont push her too much and make her feel comfortable in every manner and tell her that u wont push her and do whatever she likes..that ways she may come to trust u completely and starts enjoying fully...
2006-09-19 19:29:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
my case was same as ur wife but belive me over time i have over come this part of life. reasons that i went through might be a help 2 u . i was frightend i would get pregnent again,i was shy and from my child hood abuse i felt realy uncomfortable when my man touched me .please dont force her toooo much she 2 is feeling guilt of hurting u so give her little time get her out on an outting if possible only u 2,can u belive it took me 10years to satisfy my husband now my childrens have grown so is ower frienship so dont get tensed talk 2 her and help her 2 help u
2006-09-20 22:06:35 · answer #6 · answered by rita 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very normal to be off sex after pregnancy, give your wife some time and help her in taking care of the baby as well! Be gentle with her and make her understand that you care and are ready to wait.
2006-09-20 00:49:52 · answer #7 · answered by RR 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has advised you: he's drained and under pressure AT artwork -- that's additionally laborious. in spite of the fact that that's in user-friendly terms two times a month, is the intercourse stable for the two one among you? i've got constantly felt high quality is greater substantial than volume. because of the fact you're saying your sexual intercourse hasn't constantly been like this, chalk this era as much as outdoors pressures and attempt to make your place an oasis of calm, a respite from the busy bustle of the "outdoors worldwide" on your guy (and you, of path). Do issues that are no longer particularly sexual like giving massages or candlelit dinners after the youngsters have been fed and placed to mattress. hire a sitter or swap off with a relatives member or a pal to video exhibit the youngsters on a similar time as you 2 go out for a "date". convey romance back on your relationship with out the rigidity of overall performance, Please -- supply up ragging on him regarding the intercourse and supply up traumatic approximately his constancy.
2016-10-15 05:04:04 · answer #8 · answered by valda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
may be the fear of getting preg again. or she is homo sexual.
after child birth women takes much care of the babies and get a little time with their hubby.
2006-09-20 00:22:30 · answer #9 · answered by swetlana 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
might be afraid to get pregnant again Might be tired from taking care of child?ask her she might answer you good luck
2006-09-19 19:44:41 · answer #10 · answered by Moo moo I'm a chicken 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋