Honestly, I have no problem being friends with someone who is overweight, but I don't find obesity to be attractive. If you think looks don't matter in dating, you are lying to yourself. They aren't the most important thing, but they are important. I am in good physical shape, I go to the gym, I eat right. Seeing how I'm 6'0" and 170lbs, I am not going to fall for a girl who weighs more than me I find it disgusting. How is it shallow to turn down a girl for a relationship if you aren't physically attracted to them? Why not get on a treadmill and eat right before you get diabetes?
2006-09-19 19:16:17 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Fat girls need not answer please, thanks:)
2006-09-19 19:20:35 · update #1
Because a majority of men ARE shallow in that way! I married a fat guy, but I guaran-f*#king-tee you that if I was as overweight as he was, no one would have dated me. Women are able to look beyond surface appearance and find sexiness in the essence of that person. It's sad, but a true fact of reality. When it comes to appearance, men really do have it easier.
2006-09-19 19:21:37 · answer #1 · answered by art-nerd 3 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Girls call guys shallow but it's okay. Everyone's shallow. if you don't have the characteristics they're looking for they're gonna reject you. It's as simple as that. Just tell them, you'd reject a guy if he didn't have what you were looking for. I like a girl who looks good. Just be honest and agree with them, you're shallow. Big deal. They're not shallow for turning down guys who are interested in them cuz they're not attracted to those guys? Call them shallow.
2016-03-26 21:06:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about all men but you most certainly sound shallow. A person has no control over who gets their heart, sometimes the one we would think to be the most unlikely mate is the one our heart just can't live without. If you like someones personality, and say she is just a little overweight, maybe you are what she needs; someone to encourage her and support her in getting into shape. Unfortunately alot of persons are overweight not just because they sit around shoving food in their mouth but because they eat for comfort, they need someone. So why don't you invite a "FAT CHICK" to go workout with you sometime, and get to know her instead of judging her.
2006-09-19 19:59:03 · answer #3 · answered by up2sumpthun 3 · 5⤊ 2⤋
Fat chicks think guys are shallow because it is true, most of you like the skin-type girls that you can show off with your friends, coz when you are with a fat chick you feel ashamed. Well all i can say "LOOKS CAN BE DECEIVING"... try looking deeper into the person before getting into a relationship, its not the look that always count.
2006-09-19 19:22:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
instead of insulting the women that like you be grateful that they find you attractive. you don't have to feel the same way about them but be civil when they show interest. it takes courage for many people, men and women, to tell someone how they feel. be polite and not egotistical. I've always been attracted to guys that aren't interested in me and the ones that do ask me out, I'm not interested in. it's hard to find "the one" so be patient and polite because everyone is after the same happieness.
2006-09-19 19:23:35 · answer #5 · answered by A. D 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
They're just re-directing the blame for the weight problem. But then again, lack of eating right and exercize are not the only reasons some ppl are overweight. It appears a lot of it is psychological and/or gene shet, that makes it harder for them to lose the weight than usual. But bottom line, it is THEIR problem and it does NOT make any of us that can keep ourselves in shape and prefering someone in shape, shallow. Perhaps we wonder why the overweight people don't just date other overweight people? And they're still calling us shallow? Hahaha.
2006-09-19 19:22:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Looks and sex is not everything in life. Its how compatible you are which more important than anything. I had and aunt who said the same thing and bring home all the stud boyfriend she can to show off but finally she married to a fat man who she later claim that he understand her better and make a better companion..!
2006-09-19 19:24:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why would you date someone you find repulsive? I don't think it's shallow to reject someone on the basis of their looks any more than it is shallow to reject someone on the basis of their personality or intelligence. With the rare exception, obesity can be managed through diet and exercise. Failure to do so indicates a lack of self-control.
2006-09-19 19:25:16 · answer #8 · answered by Bethany 7 · 1⤊ 4⤋
It's shallow if that's the only reason you turn them down.
2006-09-19 19:18:51 · answer #9 · answered by kameka 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Because they are! Duh! Your answer is so self serving and self centered. Your values are clearly about what one looks like and nothing about what really defines a person. You are looking at skin and bust size only, not at what defines that person. You too, are shallow.
2006-09-19 19:33:17 · answer #10 · answered by JT 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋