MY boyfriends ex lives two hours away and he calls he every two weeks or so! He says they are just friends but isnt every two weeks a lot to be calling her? . Guys is it normal to call just a friend ex every 2 weeks? isnt that a lot? Am i just being used for sex?
2006-09-19 19:08:54 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it is no big deal calling one's ex. it depends on what they talk n also if it is very regular in every two weeks like fixing up date for talking.. well i guess u'll know if u three go out together for dinnr or something.. donot ask two much questions ,but just keep a note of things.. as it is bothering you , so it's better if you don't ignore it..
2006-09-19 19:26:53 · answer #1 · answered by hi 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
NO. Because an ex becomes an ex for a thousand different reasons. If you were no longer his girlfriend now, it does not necessarily mean you no longer care for him or that you are no longer interested in his well being. In fact you may need some help from him or you may want to help him out in some way and the phone may come in very handy. 2 weeks consists of three hundred and thirty-six hours! He may only talk to her for 10 minutes in that time. You can call him every day several times a day and see him every day. Concentrate on sharing the sweetness of your own simplicity in a meaningful way and he will appreciate every drop of it. On the other hand if you continue to worry about the phone calls then the dominating thoughts in your imagination will soon transform themselves into physical reality.
ARE YOU BEING USED FOR SEX??
If sex is all you can offer in the relationship he will take it and walk away. SEX is only a small part of any relationship YOU are the most important part in it and the chances are deep down YOU ARE A VERY INTERESTING PERSON!!! Give of your self and he will feel the power of your personality. Commend him for still caring although he gets nothing from his ex and he will love you for it. Nag him about the phone calls however, and you will be sending him right back to her.
2006-09-19 20:07:43 · answer #2 · answered by anirmaraj 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are some people who believe that two people can be friends only after a serious and long relationship. After going through this myself, I am not one of those people. If your man is only calling his ex, then I don't think you should worry much, but you should express your feelings to him. If you and your feelings are important to him, then he will put them before his 'friendship' with the ex. I'm a man and I have taken a few women down this path before, so I know that a choice has to be made. Not all the time was something going on, but my dealings with the ex always caused stress to my woman and I had to put her first. I can't answer you concerning the sex part, because I don't know what your sex life is like, but just remember to communicate your thoughts to him and never turn a blind eye to your gut feelings. Best of luck to you.
2006-09-19 19:33:39 · answer #3 · answered by getinon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do they have any children together? If so that is why. Just give him some time to move on. Maybe he did not want the break up from his ex.. Have you been with him long. . Think about these things. Confront him, tell him you don't feel right being together if he is still interested in his ex, that is if it keeps on. Good luck Pem
2006-09-19 19:24:21 · answer #4 · answered by Patricia M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry. Every two weeks isn't that much. It sounds like they are friends. You should try inviting her over for dinner one night, or out to dinner with you and your guy. that way you can see how they act together and get to know her. You already have one thing in comon.
2006-09-19 19:13:42 · answer #5 · answered by jelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should not have any contact with an ex if he is involved with you. I think he might still have feelings for her. You should just cut the strings with him because you are just hurting yourself knowing he is still talking to an ex. Don't have sex with him anymore and dump him to the curb. Show him your not dumb to be his fool. Respect yourself and don't let no guy use you!
2006-09-19 19:33:06 · answer #6 · answered by Humming Bird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible to just be friends. I've been friends with my ex boyfriends and their girlfriends need to be secure enough to handle it. Ask if you can meet her. If he really is JUST FRIENDS, he won't have a problem with it. I've met plenty of ex b/f's girlfriends because we never had anything to hide.
2006-09-19 19:13:19 · answer #7 · answered by A. D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell yeah your just being used. Hes trying too hold on to the other relationship while still getting some "in-town" action. If he was into you he wouldnt care less about his EX.
2006-09-19 19:11:52 · answer #8 · answered by bsd300d 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The ONLY way that he sould be calling her is if they had a child together, then he could see about the child. There is no way that I would let my bf call his ex just to chat... if he keeps it up, dump him
2006-09-19 19:11:45 · answer #9 · answered by Just Me 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As far as I know, guys seldom call. Unless he's the type that likes to call. Is it that he can talk to her freely but not to you? It would be good to analyse your present relationship wtih him to see if there's any problem that makes him want to call her. Get your buddy to talk with, if you have to.
2006-09-19 19:16:34 · answer #10 · answered by Queenie Tay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋