How would you start changing things? My biggest problem was listening to others and even when I was married I was basically living my life to suit my husband not myself. I have been married most of my life. I don't want to hear anything anybody has to say about how I live my life. Not from any of my grown children or my sisters. I am a grown and divorced woman who is tired of everybody putting in their two cents worth when they don't help me pay my bills and have never walked in my shoes. They want to tell me I should be married and think the worst about me because I am single. I hardly even date. All I can think about is making money to fix this stupid house and get it paid off. They see more of their husbands then I do my boyfriend. What is their problem? Can't they understand that I would like to have everything in order before and if I ever get married again? I never want to be dependant on a man again.
2006-09-19 19:08:16 · 6 answers · asked by Busy Lady 2010 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like you are fine...tell every one to back off and mind their business. You are finally happy now that you aren't being told what to do every second...you finally feel like a grown woman. What you do is your business and as long as you are happy then don't worry about what anyone has to say. Your kids just don't want to see you alone but all you have to do is tell them that you are happier now so go ahead and live their lives and don't worry about momma....they may stop or they may not.
2006-09-20 11:42:19 · answer #1 · answered by kikosgirl83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do certainly no longer permit him get away with it and that i wager he quickly starts thinking in a distinctive way. Does he get any actual outcomes from his over-spending, or do you ever bail him out of issues? you actual should be strict with issues like paying the expenses, hire etc, and if he can no longer tournament your enter then do no longer make up for his losses, or he will shop thinking that that is okay to try this. individually i'd desire to on no account be with a guy like this so my instinct is to assert 'do away with this scrounger!' yet for sure marriage ability extra, and each and each of something of it! i actual think of which you're able to be stable and coach him what he's doing to you - why would he placed you via rigidity and rigidity you into debt if he's meant to love you?! And as for the recent abode, do no longer placed extra in than him - in case you have been saving difficult and he hasn't afflicted then why should you fund his life? shop each and every thing equivalent, whether which ability entering into hardship and him having to parent a fashion out of it, and perchance you're able to placed the abode figuring out to purchase plans on carry for a on an identical time as till you're particular that he won't pass away you interior the ****. after all, if he comes to a decision to no longer pay the loan that month that is you who will go through for it - do no longer placed your life interior the palms of a guy you could no longer have confidence.
2016-10-01 04:13:53 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is wrong with you being independant? Maybe they just nag you because they think you can't possibly be happy alone & they want you to be happy. Everyone's idea of happiness isn't the same though. Try to make it clear to them that you like your life just the way it is right now.
2006-09-19 19:13:16 · answer #3 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares what they think? Obviously you do. Until you stop being like this you will never change. Look at how you are letting others influence you.Stop it
2006-09-19 19:12:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to quit worring about they think and move on with your life. live your life the way you want too and you'll be alot happier quit listening to them they are only stressing you out and pushing your buttons because they know they can.
2006-09-19 19:17:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
---YOU ARE RIGHT ---. I BEEN THERE , DONE THAT . I WAS BY MY SELF 10 YEARS, BEFOR I MARRIED AGAIN.
2006-09-19 19:20:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋