When youve been married to someone for 8 years and they pass away at a young age and unexpectically, when do u start dating again...how do u know when the time is right?
2006-09-19 19:01:21 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Losing a loved one is very difficult.
There is really no right or wrong time.
You will know when you are ready to start dating when your truly ready.
Many people feel guilty in trying to move on and they shouldn't
it doesn't mean you love them any less or that your trying to forget the love you two shared.
Give yourself time, trying to rush yourself will only make it that more difficult.
2006-09-19 19:15:46 · answer #1 · answered by kandn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will know when the time is right. I was married for 20 years when my husband passed away. I couldn't look at another man. When I finally did, I told him I had to take it slowly and he respected my wishes. We went to movies. I couldn't get intimate for the longest time. He was patient and I didn't have to look any further. I had known him as a friend for many years but never dated him until I was alone, after my husband # 1 passed away. Now I have been married for 29 years to # 2 and realize what a good man I have. Just take your time. You will meet him, probably someone you already know, too. And no one will have to tell you how long to wait. You will know. Believe me. Good luck to you and I know how hard it is. Just the thought hurts. You feel guilty and so so alone. That's what gets you. The loneliness. But don't let it rush you into something that isn't right for you.
2006-09-19 19:06:40 · answer #2 · answered by misty_blue2u 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will know when it is time. That is the part where you are feeling lonely and needing someone in your life. I would imagine the sooner you date the faster you start the healing process in your life. On the same token, be respectful and honor your recently deceased spouse.
In the meantime, go out often. Don't be sitting at home lonely.
2006-09-19 19:05:49 · answer #3 · answered by davester1970 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must be ready to or you wouldn't be asking. It would depend on a lot of things. Were you happily married or did everyone know that you had problems(if you did) I would say 6 months at the least, very least.
2006-09-19 19:05:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should start dating as soon as you feel like doing it... Imagine that your passed away husband would have wanted you to be happy, not to mourn him forever... The right time: you will know it exactly, just like you know when you meet the right person... Good luck and be strong
2006-09-19 19:07:41 · answer #5 · answered by mish_pl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dating doesnt mean your into serious relationship, this could also be a means of diversion; cures boredom, lighting up dull moments in your life.... if you have kid/s, consult them... ask your mm... but the most important is, ask yourself... go dating with out hesitations, insecurities & fears... enjoy life...its a gift!
2006-09-19 19:07:08 · answer #6 · answered by ayie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how can someone else direct your feelings. you can start dating the very next day or you can never date anybody. that's your feelings and only you can rule it.
2006-09-19 19:05:42 · answer #7 · answered by journey2paradise 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
6 months. Or when you feel ready, whichever comes later.
2006-09-19 19:10:00 · answer #8 · answered by OU812 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whenever you feel ready, give it a try. I don't think there is any set time span. Good luck.....
2006-09-19 19:06:05 · answer #9 · answered by Dusty 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your heart will let you know when its right, just keep your faith and stay positive.
2006-09-19 19:08:39 · answer #10 · answered by Ms. Educated 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋