MY ex keeps calling me..its been a year and half since we broke up. WE havent had sex and i live 2 hours away from him but he keeps calling...why do you think this is? he says he cares and loves me but we are both living seperate lives and he has a new girlfriend!! if he has a new girl..why has he continued to call me after 1.5 years? and its not a booty call b/c i refuse to have sex w.him!. i still love him but don't know what to do b/c he has another girl at home (i live 2 hours away). its killing me to keep in touch with him b/c i miss him so much. he is emotionally shy....but he broke up with me...so i dont know how to act. should i tell him i need time to meet other guys and that he is holding me back? if so will he ever call me again?.this has been all i think about for the past 1.5 years.im so emotionally drained! i just really love him.he is all i think about and i dont want to lose him. if i say that i need time will he ever call me again? or will he expect me 2 call? advice?
2006-09-19 18:51:36 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He wants sex
2006-09-19 18:53:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all "True Love" never needs to be questioned. If you have it, you know it!!
you are an ongoing challenge for him. Guaranfickenteed, if you took him back he will not leave his girlfriend. He has issues. Its his personality. If there is one thing I've learnedmen will say and do everything you want to hear and see unless they truly love you. If he really loved you as you say he does, he'd let you move on, just as he has. Wonder what his girlfriend would think if you were calling there for the past year and a half.
2006-09-19 19:01:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Toss a coin.. Either take him back or leave him alone. You being nice to him is keeping him hanging on. I had that same problem with one of my exes. She kept trying to come back to me and I was nice and would talk so she kept trying. I finaly told her that If if get a new woman she will be someone I don't know yet. And most likely not an American again. I am American and have learn that women from here are only after money and are spoilt and not worth my time. I want a woman that wants me for me.
2006-09-19 18:59:56 · answer #3 · answered by Don K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a book you should definately pick up called "He's just not that into you." I read it a few months ago, and it really helped me understand how the male mind works...seriously read it, it will answer your questions. He wouldn't keep the girl he's got if he still wnated you, as for calling you you need to understand love is a difficult thing, it stays with people for a long time. Just go get the book. You can get it at Target, Wal-Mart, Barnes and Noble...etc.)
2006-09-19 18:57:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are safe when you are 2 hours away. If he wanted you, he would have found a way to make the distance. Your comfortable, no threat, no obligation.
Ask him not to call for 3 months. It will hurt, but it will also answer your question.
Ask yourself if this is the kind of emotional kidnapping you want in a marriage.
2006-09-19 18:55:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not true love.He has a girlfriend.He is keeping you on the side.Like a spare tire,you don't use it till you need it.This guy is playing with you.He is not emotionally shy,he is emotionally controlling .
Why are you allowing him to hurt you like this?He is not coming back to you.
You need to change your phone number and get on with your life.Find someone that loves and deserves you.I wish you well.
2006-09-19 19:02:35 · answer #6 · answered by eva b 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My ex does this too. I'm sure he cares about you. But honestly, he has a girlfriend, he has moved on in that way. He seems to like the reaction he gets from you. It it kinda like a power trip to them. 2 hours isn't that bad if you really want to be together.
2006-09-19 18:55:40 · answer #7 · answered by Fleur de Lis 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's immature and unimaginative and moving toward becoming a stalker (just a matter of time). You may or may not be leading him on. Have you told him to stop calling you? Grab onto those ovaries and take a stand; tell him to get lost.
2006-09-19 18:54:18 · answer #8 · answered by OU812 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi
dear see he is a really very wicked person haveing sex with another girl and wanting to join u too neaver trust mens mens are liers cheaters though i am a man i am telling u mena are devils neaver trust them in life thats all i can say forget him there are many in this word just wait u will find one
2006-09-19 18:55:27 · answer #9 · answered by goodboy5005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He try to get something from you which he couldn't get previously. Sometime it will be sex or Long time relationship. He would be hurt by his new girl friend (rejecting his sex). So he try to keep in touch you
2006-09-19 18:59:14 · answer #10 · answered by Thushad 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋