i go to a school and there is such a cute boy how do i talk to him around his friends n how can i keep my shiness away?
2006-09-19 18:43:23 · 13 answers · asked by RoxyChick30 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You Love him?? I don't think so.
2006-09-19 18:45:36 · answer #1 · answered by James007 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey, you are jumping from playing tag with a boy in grammar school to "love" without having experienced the middle parts. You are concentrating only on some kid's cuteness and without having ever talked to him you are suddenly hopelessly in "love." Because you do not know - and are not expected to know - what "love" is, you are in territory you have no experience with and therefore you are insecure and panicked.
Get back to your grade level and concentrate on learning what is being taught so that you will have words to correctly describe what you are experiencing. School teaches you to think on your feet, to consider the facts and make decisions. You have to do the work before you get any rewards. You do not have the right to declare your "love" for a boy who does not know you exist. That sounds kind of silly, doesn't it?
Your shyness reflects your age, emotional maturity and lack of listening in class and doing the work expected of you. You can't keep your shyness away. That would make you a phony and at some point phonies are exposed and discarded. Get off the express to adulthood and slow down and smell the flowers.
2006-09-20 02:01:16 · answer #2 · answered by ALWAYS GOTTA KNOW 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There's a cure for shyness, you know! It's called, "practice". Practice talking with some family members, as long as you trust that they won't make fun of you. When something you say makes good sense, and you feel comfortable saying it, try it for real on the guy you love! And don't worry, shy is not forever! I'm sure you're a cutie as well, and you'll grow out of your shyness in no time at all! Good luck to you!
2006-09-20 01:53:24 · answer #3 · answered by Rebooted 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2006-09-20 01:53:44 · answer #4 · answered by vito c 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you're already starting out horribly, you don't LOVE him. You have a crush which is 100% different than love, and if you claim to love him you're gonna scare him away! You can't love somone you've never had any kind of relationship with. With a comment like that I'm assuming you're just starting out in high school or younger. Since it's a school setting like this just get him alone and talk to him, he may try to impress his friends by being a jerk to you if you talk to him with others around. You'll get to see him for who he is and he'll give you an honest answer about liking you or going out with you if you get him alone.
2006-09-20 01:51:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
okay, don't listen to those dumb guys, they don't know how you feel. I been there before and shyness is a terrible handicap. First become his friend if possible, if not then say hi whenever you can, use your personality to show him you like him. If he is smart, he'll notice you and maybe will even like you back. to keep your shyness away take a deap breath and tell yourself that there is no reason to be nervous, don't be shy... be confident!
2006-09-20 01:54:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL GIRL LET ME TELL YOU IF YOU STAY SHY FOREVE THEN YOULL GET NO WERE WITH HIM SO I THINK THAT MAYBE YOU SHOULD GET HIM WHEN HES ALONE AND IF HES NEVER ALONE THEN GO UP TO HIM AND ASK HIM IF YOU CAN TALK TO HIM ALONE AND THEN TELL HIM HOW YOU FELL AND IF YO CANT DO THAT TRY TO WRITE HIM A NOTE AND TELL HIM OH MY BAD I FORGOT SOME THING GIRL HOW CAN YOU LOVE HIM IF YOU NEVER EVEN TALKED TO HIM BEFOR LIKE NOT EVEN A HI OR YOU ARENT GOING OUT WITH HIM BUT THEN AGAIN IT IS POSSIBLE BUT DONT TELL HIM THAT YOU LOVE HIM JUST TELL HIM YOU LIKE HIM
2006-09-20 01:47:04 · answer #7 · answered by mrs.sl33py 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like him. Don't be shy around guys it doesn't take much to impress a guy. But, try not to talk to him around his friends because guys are easily influenced, especially if he has mean friends.
2006-09-20 01:48:10 · answer #8 · answered by sponge 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to him as you would to your friends. You have to pluck up your courage, now or never! Most likely, in due course, you will lose your inhibition. Good Luck!!
2006-09-20 01:59:51 · answer #9 · answered by Cool 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont... if he doesnt know u exist, then chances are, he wont want u... he'll probably take advantage of he fact that u want him and then leave you... im not saying hes like that... but some guys are... so be careful
2006-09-20 01:51:22 · answer #10 · answered by shaniB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
isn't love kind of a strong word?
2006-09-20 01:48:18 · answer #11 · answered by ...Is A Real Boy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋