2006-09-19 18:06:55 · 16 answers · asked by keyke 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
doesnt matter, but not all the time or else it'll end fast. Slowly build the relationship up but try not to get off with a bang.
2006-09-19 18:08:36 · answer #1 · answered by JO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's easy for people who just got into a relationship to want to spend every waking minute with each other; I know that's how I was with my boyfriend in high school. But, I am now 20, married, and thoroughly enjoy my alone time. It gives me time to reflect and think for myself without always having to explain myself. However, with that said, it drives me to no end when I husband is away training on another base in the country. Just the fact that I can't see him when I want drives me crazy!
Read this article about wanting to spend alone time:
When You or Your Spouse Desire More Space
From Sheri & Bob Stritof,
It is Okay to Want Some Time Alone
"I need some space!!" So often, this phrase is tossed out without really thinking about what is being said. This can result in unrealistic expectations and hurt feelings by both partners in a marriage.
Defining Space
When one of you says you need some space, what type of space are you asking for?
Creative space
Quiet space
Working space
Emotional space
Fun space
Away space
Financial space
Dr. Laura Vaz, a psychoanalyst, has stated in an article at www.shaadi.com, "Space means accepting the person with his differences. It means not moulding someone into the image that you want to see but to accept that there will be difference and not forcing a change on your partner.
Space includes the element of privacy. People want time for themselves."
Vanetta Chapman writes in Christianity Today that "When couples dedicate themselves to allowing each other the space and outside interests they need, they have stronger marriages. According to Dr. James Dobson the one factor that's done more damage to families than any other is 'fatigue and time pressure, which leaves every member of the family exhausted and harried.' One way to avoid that trap of exhaustion is to allow each other some time alone."
Benefits of Having Your Own Space
Time for self-realization.
Quiet moments to exchange thoughts with yourself.
Time to re-energize, regroup, and reconnect.
Recommendations When Discussing Your Need for Space
Define what type of space you are needing and be honest.
Don't wait until you are feeling suffocated or trapped in your marriage to ask for space.
Accept that wanting or needing space in your marriage is okay. It doesn't mean that your marriage is in trouble.
Let your spouse know that you are still very committed to your marriage and that your needing space or alone time or away time doesn't diminish your love or desire for your mate.
If your spouse is asking for some space, don't take it personally.
Don't measure or judge your marriage by the way other couples live. Do what is best for the both of you.
How to Give One Another Space
If the need requires physical space such as a corner of a room, a desk, a chair, etc., then work together to create this physical space.
If the space needed is emotional, then don't chatter on when your mate is reading a book, or has asked for a quiet evening.
If the space desired is away space - going fishing, a weekend away at a spa - time without you or the kids - then make plans for this type of time away in your budget planning and calendar planning.
Financial space can be created by having separate checking accounts for agreed upon monthly allowances.
Give one another a day off several times a month and schedule it on your family calendar. This means that the spouse with the day off is free from responsibilities concerning the kids, pets, and the house. Start off with three hours of free time, and work towards more time as you both get used to the idea.
2006-09-20 01:14:42 · answer #2 · answered by Amy J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much as he wants, as long as he can, i will spend time with him 24/7.
2006-09-20 01:09:37 · answer #3 · answered by Raven Hood® 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When your in love there is no such thing as spending to much time with that person.
2006-09-20 01:38:22 · answer #4 · answered by Jason 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Each couple/individual is different. Both individuals need to be comfortable with the other calling a breather.
2006-09-20 01:09:51 · answer #5 · answered by Joe Cool 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're in love you cant spend enough time together
2006-09-20 01:08:47 · answer #6 · answered by mariahp 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would be with my bf 24/7 if life would allow but of course there is also work, children, family, friends and all that other stuff to attend to.
2006-09-20 01:09:36 · answer #7 · answered by J R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
24 hours a day Max
0 hours a day Min.
2006-09-20 01:11:33 · answer #8 · answered by Chris H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ALOT! just try to give em a little time alone here and there
2006-09-20 01:11:34 · answer #9 · answered by jp_todd@swbell.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it sounds like you might need mommys permission to b with your s but i dont i am a grown up and love to b with him
2006-09-20 01:10:39 · answer #10 · answered by Msdeb gee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋