I fee like its impossible to for me to meet women and yet I see a lot of guy who are complete scumbags who have women jumping all over them. Im not understanding whats wrong with me. I treat with respect and kindness, im attractive, smart, funny and yet im sitting here alone in my room writing on yahoo anwers page while the guy who cheats on his girlfriend, disrespects her and cant support her is out hooking up with every girl on earth. Serious wtf?
2006-09-19 18:03:51 · 24 answers · asked by p_rob22 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Because the nice guy finishes last. Women don't want the good guy, they want the challenge.
2006-09-19 18:06:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there's a whole combination of things. First, it's sad but often true, a lot of women go for jerks because they have low self-esteem. They believe they don't deserve a good guy. You are lucky that these women do not want to date you because they are a mess that you cannot and do not want to fix. Second, maybe you're too nice. Do you find yourself constantly listening to girl's complaints and being the shoulder to cry on? Many women have a guy like this in their lives, the, uh, "safety" if you will. Most women wouldn't date this guy because, again, they're busy figuring themselves out with losers. Third, you may be too picky. A lot of women that guys are automatically attracted to are insecure or shallow (i.e. looking for a bank account or a trophy boy). Fourth, you maybe just haven't found the right girl. Just keep being yourself. Eventually, someone somewhere will love you for it and it will be worth the wait.
2006-09-20 01:11:44 · answer #2 · answered by sodamncute 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it has nothing to do with the fact that "bad guys" get the girls. I am just after reading an ex's question about me referring to me as a "mr. big" type character (sex in the city only i'm afraid) and there were a rash of anwers relating to why girls prefer bad boys".
But dude, i think you answered this question yourself, you are a loser, sitting at home on the computer, instead of going out! Girls may like tp be treated with respect and kindness etc, but they don't want a walkover doormat wimp at the same time.
Watch Annie Hall.
2006-09-20 01:11:48 · answer #3 · answered by irishcharmer84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of the great wtf's of our time, bud. I sympathize.
Women are, for various social and biological reasons attracted to men who are agressive and decicive. The kind of jerks your talking about are often perceived that way.
Those of us who try to be "respectful and kind" are often perceived as wimps.Sometimes nice guys like ourselves, allow the woman too lead, and make the decisions, which is the last thing they want. They want us to lead. Once you know this, you begin to realize that its quite possible to do this wihout being a jerk about it. And once you master this, you will be considered a catch.
Btw you must ask yourself.... Am i chasing around the girls who play with guys heads and flirt a lot and ignoring the maybe not quite so good looking or forward, but smart , funny and loving ones in the background? just a thought.
2006-09-20 01:14:36 · answer #4 · answered by disguys_dalimit 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The same reason why a lot of guys go for the wrong girls. They are thinking with the wrong head. Rejection is a fact of life. Deal with it. Here is what you do. Go out and date many women as you can. Play the field and increase your yield. If a woman isn't interested in you, then it is her loss and not yours. Don't let some ***** get you down and in the dumps. Be a happy person with yourself. Be a confident person and the ladies will want to be with you.
2006-09-20 01:11:06 · answer #5 · answered by davester1970 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because they are not emotionally healthy and they are carrying so much baggage from their pasts. They usually pick someone like their father and most of us were raised in such dysfunctionaly homes. If you do not get help for it and do not grow beyond it and learn from our pasts, then we continue repeating it from one generation to the next. It's sad because there are some really great guys out there with good morals, ethics and would treat these women exactly like the long to be treated but the women are not healthy enough to receive it.
2006-09-20 01:13:36 · answer #6 · answered by oneradnursey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm so sorry. :(
the girls that normally go for the wrong guys might find something about that guy that stands out. and u don't want those kind of girls anyway...really.
find a unique aspect of urself and work w/it to make you stand out from the other guys.
the girls that are nice, are too shy to come forward. they're waiting for guys to make the first move; they don't want to make it. me, for ex., i like a guy, but i'm too scared to make the move.
if you want a gf, look for girls who dont talk much (they sometimes may seem stuck-up by looking at them, but they never talk bad) or the girl that never seems to have any friends, but you have no idea why (cuz she might be pretty/cute/nice). these are the kind of girls that will like u for who u r and will commit to being ur gf.
just some advice from a girl (not the kind ur describing). good luck, and i hope you meet that right girl!
2006-09-20 01:32:58 · answer #7 · answered by gemma gemma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nice guys finish last which means girls like jerks. Jerks are really like musculant, more rudish stuff. Girls are usally attractive to that stuff.
But you what, my friend?
Forget that, that's old school stuff. I know what you mean, I have seen a boyfriend slap his beautiful, gorgeous girlfriend in public. Heck, I know I would treat her right if she was mine.
Keep your same personality up and don't change it because you just haven't met "the one" yet. There are many girls out there who's looking for your type of personality, your job is to open their eyes and let 'em know that you're there.
Good Luck.
2006-09-20 01:17:21 · answer #8 · answered by Leonardo M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the same reason men go for the wrong women. Sometimes we are looking for something we think is there but it's not. We have the same problems that is why we are sitting here typing also. I do not want a man to lead me on a leash. I do not like controlling men or jerks. I do not like bad boy's. I am a free bird. Thanks for being one of few!
2006-09-20 01:15:48 · answer #9 · answered by Busy Lady 2010 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with previous answer. Bad guys push the good guys out of the way, they're more outspoken and could see prospect a mile away. You gotta learn to be more outgoing, outspoken and learn to voice out your opinions. i.e How you like the way her hair falls etc... Make her realise that you're interested. That's what scumbags like me do for a living.
2006-09-20 01:10:47 · answer #10 · answered by Mr. Pleased to Please 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. I'm not all that but I was still with a guy that I could do better then. I stayed w/him for 5 years and he was abusive. You'll get a good girl. You seem like a good and genuine guy. It's easy to pick out the assholes after you've been with one.
2006-09-20 01:18:35 · answer #11 · answered by Somechicknamednicole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋