Sex and traditional values based on religion...?

Question

I'm a practicing Chrisitian, and have my own opinions. I'm just wondering what some people's takes are on if sex fits in with modern relationships along with Christian values. Stay firm to none before marriage, or share the love without a ring?

Answer 1

Very tough question and I like it.

I wonder how much of our own ethics and implied morals are over-laid (pardon the pun) on top of what Christian doctrine is actually said in the Bible.

My best example is not a popular one -- up until 100 years ago all the way back through civilization it was the norm for a 13 year old girl to be a bride. The wonderful play Fiddler on the Roof is about three daughters struggling with the idea of being matched with a much older man in marriage. It was common and accepted.

In the Old West (meaning just 150 years ago) a 16 year old girl, unmarried, was worried about being an Old Maid or a spinster.

With this in mind, I might question the idea of "traditional values' if they are only 50 to 75 years old. It wasn't until World War I and the Industrial Era did we shift to the large city based life -- and post World War II and beyond did we move to suburbia.

I'd posit that our "traditional Christian values' only reflect the brief period from 1950 to 1970. The stalwart parents who were Depression Babies, saving and scrimping to achieve the American Dream in a huge period of prosperity -- finally allowing their little girls to -- wait to get married.

This is the only time in history -- from 1970 to the present, when we have women in large numbers going to college, making independent choices and discovering themselves outside the context of marriage. A mere 36 years of female revolution cannot possibly expect the Biblical standards to apply to them. Why? Because there never was a context in the time it was written that could cover that option.
So, "traditional values" that we embrace are only from a 20 year time span.

Forcing the Modern Woman to live by the standards when it was common to be married by the age of 13 is naive at best.

I think this is a good argument here for "share the love without the ring."

I've read the Bible many times, certainly some sections more than others -- I feel grounded in The Word and apply it to my daily life. I think that much of what has developed in recent times (the stripping of the male roles, for example) has made a huge resurgence in the Christian church, people wanting those old standards.

I believe what the Bible says and that it's the Word of God -- I believe also it must be understood in the context of our current society. This means, if it is Truth, then it Must apply to how we live today and not force us to live how our ancestors did.

Answer 2

Sex is intimacy, and intimacy belongs in marriage. I think when God talks about foreknowledge, it means a foreLoving of His own, also to an intimate level. That's why the Church is called the bride of Christ, or at least it seems to fit. Marriage should reflect that, and that means sex shouldn't be outside of marriage.

Answer 3

These are 'Only' words from the bible...........

"Flee from fornication. Every other sin that a man may commit is outside his body, but he that practices fornication is sinning against his own body." ----------------- 1 Cor. 6:18

NO SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE
So, my answer not being based on religion (ONLY BIBLE), people want to make up their own ideas and justifications on different situations such as sex before marriage........... Saying that, "It is O.K,".... "Nothing is wrong with it,".. or....... "Everybody else is doing it."

Being a practicing Christian, that truly means to apply what the Bible is Really AND HONESTLY teaching .... BASED ON THE BIBLE... and not what your friends, family, or even preachers/ministers say. Just what God's Word says..... So, what you think?

Resisting tempation in regards to fornication is DEFINITELY without a doubt very hard, but it takes endurance and reading the Bible to draw closer to God in order for Him to help us faces those situations. Keep in mind Colossians 3:5

Hope this helps and TAKE CARE.

Answer 4

If you are a Christian you follow Jesus... that is the definition of a Christian... Jesus said if you want to come after Him, to deny yourself, carry your cross and follow Him.... that means not to go by your own opinions, make Him number one and be obedient to Him....chose to stop following the ways of the world and instead follow the ways of Jesus... according to the bible the marriage bed is undefiled but fornicators God will judge....that means that it is a sin to have sex before marraige....true love waits... God bless you

Answer 5

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Answer 6

Stay firm with out a ring and marriage certificate!

Answer 7

No sex before marriage.
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Answer 8

I feel that sex is safe enough that we don't need it to be goverened by morality. We have measures available like condoms to protect against disease and pregnancy, so there are finally negligable negative consequence to sex, apart from moral outrage. I don't see any reason to hold on to values when they no longer have any value.

Answer 9

I believe that you should wait before having sex before marriage because that is one of God's 10 commandments although you can repent that is not the reason why you should have sex. Just so you can do it and then repent.

Answer 10

I am a Christian male. I believe in no sexual intercourse before marriage. Then no sex during marriage when the wife has a 'headache'. lol