ok true story. I went out with a guy and quickly became suspicious that he might be gay. He shaves his legs and body and all that, but he's a swimmer so I took that in stride. well we made out a little after about 4 dates and it was nice, but then he mention in a later conversation that he liked things in his @$$. long story short we kind of drifted apart and then out of the blue he asked me if I would consider using "something" on him. how exactly would you have responded to this?
2006-09-19 17:42:18 · 23 answers · asked by Beeper 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just to clarify i did say no and haven't talked to him since, but i say him today on campus and he waved like crazy i hid behind my sunglasses and headed on to class
2006-09-19 17:47:44 · update #1
wow...i also had suspicions the last guy i dated might have been gay. i reacted more or less in the same fashion: i pretty much dropped hints that i didn't want to hear from him again. don't feel sorry for him; he alone should come to terms with what he really wants. he shouldn't ask you to participate in activities that do not entice and excite you. let him grow up and choose the right path for him, for you already have. one thing i've learned in my 31 yrs on this planet is that women have a very strong intuitive sense. at least 90% of the time your initial gut instinct is accurate.
rock on, sister...
2006-09-19 18:34:53 · answer #1 · answered by altoidninja 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might not be gay but he does have some issues. he moght be a submissive or a cross dresser, or fantasize about being a woman. If you're not into it (and it seems your not) then that's pretty much that. MOST guys have some kind of fetish, sometimes it's mild like being into breasts or legs and sometimes it's not but it all comes form the same basic place. Guys are TOTALLY different when it comes to sec than girls. brains are different, programming is different. it's just one more thing to deal with. Dr Drew pinsky has a lot to say on his shows about stuff like this.
2006-09-20 00:48:53 · answer #2 · answered by Scott L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol. he may be gay and he may not be. men have a gland in their anus that feels good when touched. it's not justy gay guys, but some straight guys who try this. also,most swimmers shave their body so they can swim faster. everyone has a little kinky side to them when their in bed, this may be all that it is. if it were me i would have gone with it and see what happens next, if he ends up moaning a guys name or doesn't want to touch u,then i think u should worry :) or if the only way he'll have sex with you is from behind. Just watch his movements, how he walks or moves his head when he talkes. Or when he's with his friends from swimming, does he stand too close to them? when your with him does he talk more about you or moments with his friends in the pool and locker room? just spend time with him and see how he acts. Try avoiding his behind at first and focus on other parts of his body,see if he gets aroused by normal sex or if its only in his butt. hope i helped some. good luck.
2006-09-20 00:58:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would run.
I had a bf a few years back that I thought was perfect. He looked like a GQ Model (should have been tip off, eh?) , we were moving really slow and having fun. He never really tried anything with me, but he always delivered flowers to work, took me to dinner, to play pool, etc. and I loved it!!
Conversation was awesome and deep, but then he started to creep little things into the conversation about "back door action" (regarding himself).
Long story short - he tried to commit suicide shortly thereafter because his "boyfriend" broke up with him. I was just a ploy to make his lover jealous.
bleck!!!
2006-09-20 00:49:26 · answer #4 · answered by CE S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're dating a swimmer, that's why he shaves his legs. And, there probably isn't a woman on here that doesn't know that the quickest way to hurry her man's finish is a little play back there.
But, to take it to the extent your guy did is a little bit overboard. Send him packing.
OK, bad choice of words. Dump him.
2006-09-20 00:48:01 · answer #5 · answered by live2ride 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just so you know...if it's done between members of the opposite sex...it's not gay...no matter what is done..Do you like your a*** played with? Do you like your man to use a vibrator on you? Do you think this makes you gay?
My very straight male partner loves me to use my strap on and butt plugs on him...If you are comfortable with your own sexuality and enjoy pleasing the other person..go for it ...You just sound young and inexperienced....as you get older you may find yourself open to more variety...hopefully you will find someone you trust and can explore with.
2006-09-20 12:40:58 · answer #6 · answered by arosehasthornns 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Strap it on Baby and give it to him hard...you might like it. If not throw up all over his back side, say your sorry and leave. That guy is strange you need a real man for real....sorry I'm taken already
2006-09-20 00:48:35 · answer #7 · answered by BillyJoeBob 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what ever you are comfortable with. that is something he can do for himself but he wants to share it with you. i have a feeling that he has a problem intimacy. it could be he was sexually abused as a child by someone he loved and trusted and now acts out this ritual with someone he cares about. i advocate frank, open discussions so that everyone knows what is going on and what to expect. if you feel ok about it after your talk with him, go for it.
2006-09-20 00:48:36 · answer #8 · answered by handyman5218 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he night not be gay, he might be bi. If you really like him and you think he really likes you and can be faithful, then why not give it a try. What two people do in a bedroom to please each other is up to the people doing it. He might want anal sex, but not from a guy...maybe he just wants to see how it feels.
2006-09-20 00:45:39 · answer #9 · answered by cowgirl 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He might be curious, might be bi and doesn't know how to tell you, or he is gay.
Find out what is dating pattern is. If he does not date a lot, it might be because he is confused.
2006-09-20 00:46:13 · answer #10 · answered by BuffyFromGP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋