he has been acting up so badly,he talks at quiet time and stuff is just one of the many examples he is not really a bad kid its just when he gets around any children is he bad,when he is by himself he is an angel why is this??i dont want to spank him each time......
2006-09-19 17:37:49 · 10 answers · asked by happybunnyjg 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Sounds like he is very social, with what little info I have. He's not BAD, just because he is disruptive. I assume your already working with the teacher on it. My kids are the same, they are doing fine now that they are older, but it was extremely difficult during that time. Maybe you can reward him every day he does not get in trouble for being disruptive. Or work up to a reward. Lids have a short attention span, so small daily rewards seem to work better. May be if he joins some after school activities he'll get his social time appropriately and focus more during school. Don't let it get you down, your not alone!!
2006-09-19 17:46:38 · answer #1 · answered by pyxypower777 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you do not want to spank him "each time." It sounds like there is quite a few problems going on.
My general rule is if I get a report from the school of misbehavior then this is serious enough to warrant a spanking.
However, since this is kindergarten it is still a time of adjustment. You need to talk with the teacher about what is setting it off--as well as your son. It may be he is just not used to socializing with other kids--and needs to learn the rules and nuances of social interaction. Actually this is what kindergarten is suppose to be all about--even though in recent years it has, unfortunaetly, been made into a more academic thing.
In sum--I would work with the teacher and with your son to get at the root of things and work on socialization.
On the other hand--I would not hesitate to spank for behavior that was reported to me by the school.
2006-09-19 22:05:12 · answer #2 · answered by beckychr007 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he hadnt been exposed to other children prior to kindergarten, or very infrequent interaction then you might consider some afterschool playtime with other kids while you watch his interaction and step in to teach him how to behave. It's not the other kids that should teach him, nor the teacher's responsibility. That shouldve been something adressed prior to attending school. His behavior is disruptive to everyone and needs your help mom. Start by saying 'his behavior is bad' not him.
2006-09-19 17:49:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should start teaching him consequences to his behavior now...really it should have already been started, but he needs to be taught.
If this just started look and see if there is something big that changed. Was he in pre-school or is this his first school experience? He may just be testing the waters.....but stop him before he goes in the deep end!
2006-09-19 18:21:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my friend is an awesome mom, she explains everything to her son. How he's being disruptive, who it's effecting, how it's effecting, etc. His eyes become big and asks questions. She never lies or beats around the bush with stupid games.
He's 6, and functions a whole lot better than other kids his age b/c his mom answers all his questions logically.
2006-09-19 17:47:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
when my youngest did this i went for 2 days and sat in the back of the class room and when she misbehaved i took her to the bathroom and she soon got the idea. she learned i would go up there myself and take care of her misbehaving if she didn't learn to behave.
2006-09-23 02:36:56 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consequences ... Consequences ... Consequences ...
Let him know that there will be consequences for his actions. Let him know what those consequences will be and then enforce them. No slack! After he recieves his punishment don't tell him "See what happens when you..." Give him some love and ask him how it feels when he is punished. He needs to learn that his actions have consequences and he needs to realize this without you constantly telling him.
2006-09-19 17:52:46 · answer #7 · answered by brp23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may have Attention Deficit Disorder (A.D.D.) Ask his teacher if she thinks he should be tested for it. If he truly is A.D.D. it can be controlled beautifully with medication. But as an elementary teacher I can tell you some boys are just rowdy and that's just who they are. He will grow out of it gradually if you are consistent with your discipline and reward his good behavior as often as possible. Good luck! :)
2006-09-19 22:06:53 · answer #8 · answered by mimi22 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he needs to know that there are consequences if he misbehaves. what does he enjoy doing? you need to follow through and take that away if cannot use his "listening ears"
2006-09-19 17:46:19 · answer #9 · answered by K.K. Slider 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should start punishing him..hehe
2006-09-19 17:43:53 · answer #10 · answered by hisahito 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋