I have been out with this girl from work about 5 times and she has never turned down a date. She always seems excited to go and we have a good time. I have hooked up with her on the last three dates and have slept in her bed with her twice (no sex). She is kind of shy around a lot of people and she describes herself as a nerd but she really isn't.
I am about 10 years older than her and she has never been married. I think she may be fairly inexperienced in dating even though she is in her mid twenties. We have never really talked about our past relationships so I am not really sure.
She always answers my calls and we have good conversations. However about a week ago I just noticed that something was different. She has never called me first but she has started a few e-mail conversations.
I am just not sure if she is interested or if she just doesn't know how to tell me to get lost. I think about her all of the time but I don't know if she thinks about me until I contact her.
2006-09-19 17:23:34 · 11 answers · asked by William J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ask her where you stand. That's the only way you'll find out. If you want something more serious, you have to make that clear by saying "I'd like something more here and I want to know what you're looking for."
She could just be scared that you'll think she's coming on too strong. She may also just have a lot of things going on in her life.
Maybe she's the kind of girl who believes that calling is the guy's job. Whatever. It could be any number of things and it will drive you crazy trying to decipher her behavior.
If you like her and respect her and thinks she's such a great girl, be open with her. Trust me, most girls would appreciate a little honesty and open communication. Good luck.
2006-09-19 17:33:39 · answer #1 · answered by sodamncute 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope she's interested if she's letting you sleep in the same bed as her!
It's hard to say. Maybe she's the type that likes to be pursued... not into calling the guy, things like that. If you enjoy being with her, I say continue with the relationship/friendship as long as she is willing. That is, call her, continue to ask her out, don't give up hope. Maybe she's just a bit shy and wants you to make all the moves.
If you want, leave her alone for a few days or so. Let a weekend go by without contacting her. And then see if she contacts you. Perhaps this will let you know how she feels.
Good luck!
2006-09-19 17:32:55 · answer #2 · answered by bunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she is interested in you. She always answers your calls and doesn't avoid you. You have good conversations and that is a 2 way street. And now she is making some attempts to open communication by emailing you first. This is a good sign!!! No, it's a great sign.
She just may be inexperienced and need a little time.
My advise....just let it flow naturally. Don't try to force anything and when she is ready and the time is right nature will take its course. Oh and some old fashion romance couldn't hurt either. In the old days courting was a art form.
2006-09-19 17:30:10 · answer #3 · answered by Willow S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a nice guy, but rather a bit of an extrovert, I will actually make excuses to touch a girl I like, to judge her reactions to my touch. If it's positive I ask her out, if negative I don't... if she starts to shiver and breath heavy... i look for the nearest broom closet ;)
2016-03-26 21:01:25 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to back away for awhile. not to far though cuz she sounds insecure. Just smile and always be friendly but don't call her a lot or ask her to go out. If she doesn't do anything she either doesn't want to be with you or is too insecure and needs some time to mature.
2006-09-19 17:29:21 · answer #5 · answered by Devon M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on, of course she is interested in you. Ask her what she thinks about you guys as a couple. If she is shy, she probably hates the phone. You can do this, tell her how you feel. If you don't, you will regret it.
Good Luck!
2006-09-19 17:28:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's this thing called communication. It involves talking about your interest in each other among other things. It is crucial for a relationship. Many girls don't phone guys. They wait for the guy to call. I think based on what you have said that she is interested.
2006-09-19 17:33:53 · answer #7 · answered by winkcat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her. 5 dates, you should know by now how she feels, if not maybe she is too shy to say. So ask her if she's interested in you like you are with her.
2006-09-19 17:31:26 · answer #8 · answered by mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she seem interested otherwise she would not have call you or send emails. she is just shy, so why don't you try to talk about relationship with her and slowly try to know wat she thinks about you and her.
you two really have to talk and i can very well see that you are interested so don't lose this opportunity
2006-09-19 17:32:15 · answer #9 · answered by ggurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as though she is interested, but be blunt. Ask her how she feels.
2006-09-19 17:33:35 · answer #10 · answered by Andyr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋