My boyfried is a really good and honest guy. He treats me really well and we have never fought , but I just dont feel the same way anymore and I like an other person . I don't know how to tell him. Please give me some advice . I don;t want to hurt his feelings or make him suffer , becuase he doesn't deserve anything bad.
2006-09-19 17:05:52 · 18 answers · asked by Ale D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Generally the
"Sweetheart, this just isn't working anymore. I think we need to break up."
thing seems to work.
2006-09-19 17:08:06 · answer #1 · answered by irishcharmer84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't really matter exactly how you tell him. Whether you pick nice words or not, he's still gonna have his feelings hurt just the same. That said, the best thing to do is to break it off firmly and decisively. It's okay to end a relationship if you're not into it any more, but it's no fair to leave him with a false hope that you'll work it out sometime in the future. My only other advice is to be honest with him about your reasons. If you're not, he'll dream up his own reasons for why you left, and they probably won't come close to the truth.
2006-09-19 17:13:05 · answer #2 · answered by Jonathon M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, analyse for yourself if it is worth leaving this guy for another... If this guy is all that you said, then why do you want to leave him just because you like someone else? it mite just be infactuation or crush... so decide!! If you still feel you have to break up with this gem opf a person... which you rarely find, then go ahead and tell him... because no matter what you say and how you say, he will get hurt
2006-09-19 17:09:37 · answer #3 · answered by Little Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just kick him in the nuts... he will break the relationship then...
No, you're on the right thing. You don't want to hurt him, yet don't know how to break up without hurting him. The sad truth is, you won't be able to breack up without hurting him, and continuing with him will just hurt him more in the end.
So, just talk to him about it, there's no way you won't hurt him, but just try to be honest, say that you're sorry, but that you really don't love him now, that you gave your best, but that the relationship didn't work out for you, and thanks for all the great time you did spent together, but that you can't love him back.
2006-09-19 17:11:01 · answer #4 · answered by Roberto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i went through the same thing with my x-girl. look, to be blunt and honest, there is no perfect time or way to break up wid sum1...its just one of those things a person has to do. of course u dont want to hurt his feelings...but if u dont do anything about it, u'll just keep stringing him along...and u know wut, it will get alot harder if u wait. trust me. do u know wut sucks even more than causing heartbreak? being heartbroken at the same time. look...i dont know u, but im sure u r young and still have so much more to experience. my advice....just tell him how u feel. talk it over with him...cuz if u dont...from personal experience, u dont want to do it when u r heartbroken too. dont wait. just tell him wuts on ur mind and heart...in the end, he may understand...if not...then he deserves it. just go with ur gut. he may be a good guy...but how can u make him happy if u r not?
2006-09-19 17:15:30 · answer #5 · answered by Aljohn T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is as good a guy as you say, then don't delay in telling him that you want to break up. He deserves your honesty, and in the long run he will respect you for that. Leading him on, or cheating on him would be worse. Don't waste his time, if its over its over. Just tell him straight up. It hurts much less, in the long run.
2006-09-19 17:13:49 · answer #6 · answered by amalia372005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow ur weird this guy sounds perfect and you want to break up with him and ull find some other dude who will cheat on u. funny girl but watever u do dont break up on a postage or over the phone. just tell him its not working out for you now and you need some space. you're a weird girl.
2006-09-19 17:09:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him directly. Go straight to the point. And for the sake of the relationship i guess he has the right to know what lead to the break up. Explain everything in detail. Give your reasons why you are breaking up with him.
2006-09-19 17:09:23 · answer #8 · answered by kai_sungit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont leave the one you love for the one you like because the one you like will leave you for the one they love......meaning, dont mess up a good thing just because you "like" someone else. Think about it...is it really worth it, he could be your future husband. Good, HONEST guys dont come a dime a dozen anymore.
2006-09-19 17:09:46 · answer #9 · answered by Sexiiness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just explain to him that you think highly of him but the time has come when ya'll have grown apart and you want to explore other options in life
2006-09-19 17:08:39 · answer #10 · answered by Amy M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him, his feeling will be hurt no matter what you say.
But pain early on or pain later is all still pain, you just have to decide which is worse.
2006-09-19 17:13:46 · answer #11 · answered by my1215boo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋