I am 20 years old and I never had a girlfriend. There were some girls as friends, but not as girlfriends. I know I look good, because a lot of times girls actually come and start talking to me and I dunno what to talk about, so I usually talk about thing that I know most-politics and current world events :), which I guess is a turnoff to them and they quickly walk away.I dunno what can be more exiting to talk about than global warming..lol jk I lack confidence to talk to a girl, because of fear of rejection. Do you think I can still change my personality?
2006-09-19 17:05:32 · 17 answers · asked by Nice man 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You dont have to change to find the right girl. If you have to change in order to please someone, then you know they dont like you the way you are. Just give it time, you'll find her.
P.S.--There are PLENTY of people I know who are 20+ and they havent even had their first kiss yet. So, no worries, babe :)
2006-09-19 17:10:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
First, don't change your personality.
Second - don't worry about what you talk about. If it is politics etc that you want to discuss, keep doing so (as a girl - this can be intimidating if we are not up to speed on current events and we don't want to look stupid!)
Just be down to earth, relaxed, confident. Of course you will find a girlfriend. And if it doesn't work out, definitely do not take it personally, it just means that girl is not for you. You will know right away when you find "the one".
Good luck in your search!
2006-09-20 00:10:08 · answer #2 · answered by Windseeker_1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Knowing that you have a problem means you are halfway to the solution...a big head start.
Now, have you ever heard that two topics never to talk about in social conversation is politics and religion? It's good advice.
What to talk about? You are an intelligent person. Focus on the two H's: humor and her. Ask her a question, listen to her answer, then follow up with a funny story about you and the same subject...but make your story only a few sentences long.
This is a start. I also think you should try a dating website to get some more dates and practice. A good website that has unbiased ratings is http://www.eDatingRatings.com.
I wish you well,
Leafgreen
2006-09-20 00:11:57 · answer #3 · answered by PaymentKey.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah! Just get out there and chat..about what you know. If the girl gets bored, she obviously isn't worth it. I don't mean to say everyone is going interested in what you talk about, but at least she should be able to listen to you, even if she is bored. Also, talk about hobbies, books or movies you like, etc. One thing you should always remember is to never CHANGE for a woman, (that goes for women as well), you shouldn't have to change for anyone, they should love you for who you are. Though, to meet new people, and to build up your confidence you should just start going out more and chatting with people, not necessarily women, but with anyone you can
Good Luck! :)
2006-09-20 00:15:52 · answer #4 · answered by PeachyFixation 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't date til I was 20. You say you are afraid of rejection? well seems to me you have lived through it many times a girl walking away is a form of rejection, don't be afraid of that. you'll find someone eventually who won't walk away and will surprise you by knowing just as much about current world events as you do. just keep doing what you are doing it will come, when you least expect it. good luck.
2006-09-20 00:13:10 · answer #5 · answered by Beeper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyone can get a gf even if they are boring to death like you,You will probably find girls that are boring too.I am yet to meet a single girl who genuily enjoys politics. Try to have some ready jokes and hangout a lot. I am 23 and never had a straight GF, but its a choice.
2006-09-20 00:23:16 · answer #6 · answered by caribana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are comfortable with who you are now do not consider changing. Just look for women that have the same interest as you do. Join some politicle club. Join Toast Masters, smart women hang out there too.
2006-09-20 00:13:57 · answer #7 · answered by d b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyone can change their personality if they wanted to. Instead of just thinking about topics YOU like, when a girl approaches you, try to find out her interests. Girls always like it when the guy gets interested in her. Also, compliment a feature of hers..hair, eyes, or clothes. Girls also admire guys that butter them up. Try those techniques, and you'll get the girl you want soon enough.
2006-09-20 00:09:34 · answer #8 · answered by forest_without_sounds 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, when a girl approaches you dont bother entertaining her with your political views and stuff... be yourself, look at her eyes and show you're interested in her, that's what you call flirting, you dont necessarily have to act like a maniac, or impress her with talk.
2006-09-20 00:19:14 · answer #9 · answered by gringo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you consider the fact that you might me homosexual and really have no interest in women i mean it might be something to consider just an observation on the information you have provided
2006-09-20 00:14:16 · answer #10 · answered by soldierof the 82ndAirborne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋