Ladies can you help me figure out what is wrong? I am 23 5'9" 160lbs in good shape and have a nice tan. I have brown hair, green eyes, and dress very neatly. The problem is I am getting a divorce and now I am moving on. I go out with friends on the weekend to different clubs and it seems as if there is no women that check me out. When my wife and I were together and we would go out I would have women come up to me all the time and likewise for her (men). I have never had a problem meeting new women in the past but now I it seems as if I have it rock bottom. I am a very nice looking guy (not to boast) but I know that there are other guys out there that look better. What is the problem? I treat women like they should be treated and not like a piece of a.s.s. Got any tips or advice? I am not desprite to find somebody but I would like to find someone so that we could start off as friends and see where it goes.
2006-09-19 17:01:53 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It always seems to happen this way, when you're taken, people want you...likewise, when you're not, they have no interest in you. It has somthing to do with the fact that when you're taken, you're seen as somthing that is desired. When you're not, you're seen more like somthing unwanted. For people on the "hunt" they see "good looking guy+alone=somthing just may be wrong".
There's also the popular belief that females have a "ring" in which news about guys travels quickly and you could be blacklisted...that's a lame belief and an untrue one. What you need to do is be more straighforward. Go up to a woman, start a conversation with her, get to know her; and not necessarily just at the clubs either.
I think you actually may benefit from trying places other than the club circuit. Sometimes other settings are better for meeting people.
Till next time,
Raven
2006-09-19 17:10:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're lacking self-confidence being new and back on the dating scene. And self-confidence is important in meeting a woman. So is smiling and catching an eye or two. Mill around; talk it up a little about THEM...not you. Or ask someone to dance. You're going to have to get out there and do some fishing, honey. You're just out of practice, that's all. You might check out the new trends in clothing for men also, or do a new mature haircut. Women keep tabs on those things too. Godloveya.
2006-09-19 17:08:11 · answer #2 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should have a break from dating and spend some quality time with yourself. You are still so young you should get out and about and discover the world around you. Go travelling, read books, hang out with your male friends. Start to discover things about yourself, such as who you are and what you like, in general. As a woman, I am not interested in guys who have either just split up with a girlfriend or just divorced. I don't want to be a rebound girl and I don't want to have to deal with the baggage the man is carrying (divorce settlements, property settlements etc.). I have dated guys who would constantly talk about their exes or still hold a grudge against the breakup.
Also, without you being aware, you could possibly be sending off signals which women are picking up that warns them of your current situation. Take some time out.....
2006-09-19 17:15:26 · answer #3 · answered by melaleuca76 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your problem is that your going through a hard time right and you just need to take baby steps instead of jumping out there in the club scene.So but when you were a married man girls get turn on by that **** they love it its very exciting to them bitches excuse my language but they are that.So what I'm saying is take you r time don't jump into relationship right away u don't wanna get hurt again.So good luck with everything
2006-09-19 17:08:38 · answer #4 · answered by toohot4u 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my advice to u is just relax injoy yourself and go to them, don' t let them come to u but also show some respect for the lady u are talking to at the club. also no jumping in bed with her the frist night not all women want to sleep with a man the frist time they meet also, don't use her for just a peace of meat, you must show a lady respect to get respect.
2006-09-19 17:05:36 · answer #5 · answered by angie c 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hi sugar i'm going to circulate on a date with you each time lol. yet perhaps you ought to drop with the aid of to "see your sister" on the tip of her classification, then invite her to connect you men to eat later so as that way it continues to be casual and you have greater of an threat to be sure if she's involved.
2016-10-15 04:54:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
woman can sense when a guy is nervous or seems a little lost. U might not even realize your putting out a vibe. relax, it will happen.
2006-09-19 17:05:30 · answer #7 · answered by psychpath64 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go up to the girls you find attractive instead of waiting for them. maybe you just don't notice as much now if girls are checking you out because your feeling insecure
2006-09-19 17:07:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey dont worry you will find her or she will find you sometime just keep on lookin.
2006-09-19 17:19:51 · answer #9 · answered by tootles 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
once you get divorced, you will be a poon-tang magnet, its happened to 2 of my friends. they just flock to him. i'm thinking about getting divorced myself just to get more action.
2006-09-19 17:04:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋