to , oyu people out there wo say get over it move on and that sort of stuff pleas save your words for someone else ,cuz you know what i get anough of that at home from the people i know .now this is why i ask the ? well my family got hurt well the hole story is relly bad and there was another famly who's famly was invovled and well now . now that famly hates my famly for a huuge misunderstanding and for somthing somebody did who is in our famly by birth , but out beacuze of his coices ! and no i am losing my bf and the people who are like bros.to me and one of them i maby like i don't know life is just scrued up ! pleasdon't be mean to me ihave my famly who bad mouths the other famliy ( sertin peopel in my famly ) and i know some words may be spelled rong forgive me i an dislexic and i can't spell so u wan't 2 b mean save it for someone who cares .
2006-09-19 16:56:11 · 3 answers · asked by kathryn j 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
ok the hole thing is ny cuz, got messed up in some stuff and don't tell me we shued help himwe tried wichis were i an going see we sent him to a rehab and when he came back he got his littel bro. my bf /cuz in it and the amly's kids were freinds with my cuz,and din't tell us he was in all that crap so are famly confrot them oh yeah my bf/cuz cleand up , ut eny how my famly comfronted the other and it got into a hole big fight and now we aren't to have eny thing to do with em , well we wern't our /my famly mostof them forgave the other famly , but we never got frgivness back . and now i am losing my bf and 2/3 guys who r like my big bros. and one of them the youngest i guss i like i don't know you know what i mean , i like him ,but i dout he likes me so whatever it just hurts to have 2 famlys almost the exact sane in such a hatefull place or 1 of the 2 . well nohardfellings ilovetheotherfamly theyareniceit'sjustican'ttakeit.mycounseleratskoolsaidthatweneedtoemptyourbaskets this my way
2006-09-19 17:06:50 · update #1
I am sorry you are having to deal with this...... the kids should not have to pay for the adults stupidity and selfishness...... maybe try talking to the guys, the ones you feel are like brothers to you, and see maybe if ya'll can some how not let it all effect your relationships... make an agreement to be open and honest with each other and to talk things out among urselves ... agree to disagree about it all and move on ?? agree to NOT let the adults come between you... you may have to meet in town or at movies, but you should NOT have to give up your loved ones..... I hope and pray this helps you some..... I know what you are going thru, right now my family is torn apart over something that may keep us apart forever...... God bless
2006-09-19 17:16:34 · answer #1 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people hold grudges because they don't trust God to help them
only God can help in this situation I suggest you begin to pray for all involved.
I had a problem forgiving someone and I struggled for a long time with negative feelings until I surrendered the hurt to God and began to choose each day to forgive and bless that person.
2006-09-20 02:03:50 · answer #2 · answered by snowcrablegs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch!
People hold grudges because they mistakenly thing it is easier/lighter than holding an olive branch. They are afraid they may get hurt again by the other people so they hurt themselves worse by losing a relationship and souring their life.
2006-09-20 00:54:21 · answer #3 · answered by Joe Cool 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋