Why does today's society portray full-time mothers as lazy, ditzy, irresponsible, influenced women? In a society that claims to shun stereotypes, shouldn't we shun this one? Why cant full-time mothers be portrayed as wise, responsible, influencial, role-models for tomorrows women?
2006-09-19 16:01:28 · 29 answers · asked by woman_of_tomorrow 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I am a stay at home mom too. I have not met anyone who looks down on me for staying home, but have had friends trying to convince me that daycare is great and "dont you want to come back to work"? I usually find the people that want to drag me back to the office are those that are jealous that they cant stay home themselves and want me to be just as miserable as they are. I prefer the friends that tell me point blank that they are jealous that I can stay home and they cant. I would never trade my kids in for a paycheck.
2006-09-19 16:10:08 · answer #1 · answered by sooz 3 · 5⤊ 2⤋
I agree. I had a friend that stayed home with her last child for a year. She complained the whole time. She hated giving up her life for the child. I have always been a stay at home mom. Three girls 9 , 3, and 6months. I know that some women have to work. My mom had to. If you are able, stay home. We sacifice alot. No vacations, smaller house, fewer shoes and clothes, etc... When that child thanks you for staying home it is all worth it. I thought about working outside the home. I have made wedding cakes for the past 4 years. My oldest 2 had sad looks on their beautiful little faces. And asked me not to. My friend said to me not to long ago that a stay at home mom is simple minded and did not have a life. I admit, while shopping the other day a mom was singing Wonder Pets to her child. I just picked up where she left off. My 3 year old let out a laugh that was priceless! My kids are my life. To some it may not be exciting, but trust me, there is never a dull moment at my house:)
2006-09-20 04:00:27 · answer #2 · answered by toricp3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well,if tax shelters continue to escalate,and all funds are so tied up that you have to work for everything,..for the kids.then I do not see it changing anytime soon.What I mean is twofolded actually.Look at how companies(not small) have been able to prosper with the low paying cheap labor us women have laid out on a silver platter for the executives.And,families are not giving up their money,as long as women can handle all crisis that come up daily.Their purse-strings are tight to help with family things,too.Who is getting richer,not me,not my little family.But,I have the insurance,etc...I would like to see either prosper without women in the workforce.If I were to quit my job,or all women quit,somebody would pay..now that would be worse than high gas prices,or anything.Families with all that hoarded money,would have to start helping out,lose their play money for stocks,etc..and well,you can see it all now.Your right,it would be hard to do the just thing,and that is everybody looking out for the kids,not just Mom,as usual...
2006-09-19 23:17:25 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The same could be asked, why are working mothers portrayed as cold, distant workaholics who shouldn't have had children if they were going to just ship them to daycare? Why can't all moms, working or stay at home, be seen as wise, responsible, influencial, role-models for tomorrows women?
I think we are all great.
2006-09-19 23:05:08 · answer #4 · answered by LittleMermaid 5 · 8⤊ 1⤋
So many answers so little time to read them all!! I don't feel this way at all until I am around only working moms and then I have to remember that they have it hard too. I think that women should do what suits their family, and they shouldn't complain about it. I grew up knowing how important it is for children to have a mom around (and a dad but not the topic) my mom was and is all of those great words you used. I hope to be able to do that too but my other sister doesn't she works and that works for her.
2006-09-19 23:37:10 · answer #5 · answered by Tetsi 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My belief is that women have created this mindset with our demands for equality and actions we've taken since 1920 to ensure that women can do what men do. It has worked against us in some ways, thus the stereotyping of stay-at-home mothers. It's difficult for people in the "outside" world to know what a mother does inside her home. She must venture outside the home and become involved in her community in order for people to see just how wise, responsible, and influencial a role-model she is, as this doesn't get handed to her because she stays at home with kids.
2006-09-19 23:10:57 · answer #6 · answered by julesl68 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Isn't that portrayal also a sterotype? It seems that your issue isn't with being sterotyped, it is with not liking the sterotype. Also, why can't full-time mothers be portrayed as wise, responsible, influencial, role-models for tomorrows people, not just women? The first step to ending sexism and sterotypes is to stop being sexist and using sterotypes. Personally, I try to make a concerned effort to form an opinion of people based on my experiences and observations of them, not their chosen occupation.
2006-09-19 23:06:55 · answer #7 · answered by Medic123456789 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
My husband and I decided that for me to be a sahm would be better than getting a bigger paycheck. With two babies under two, and playgroups and mommy and me, and all of the other things that we do, I don't have time to worry about what other people think, or to watch soaps (whoever said that is completely misinformed about what being a mom really means)
2006-09-20 00:24:54 · answer #8 · answered by cailincox 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My sister tells me all the time she wish she could be a stay at home like me, I told her stay at home moms never get an off day and they hardly get a break because there is always something to do. People don't realize how hard we work.
2006-09-20 00:44:31 · answer #9 · answered by Briget B 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would say anyone giving you a bad time about that is jealous. I wish I could be a full time mom. I feel that I am missing so much of my children's life and I know that this is precious time I can never get back. Be proud that you can.
2006-09-19 23:27:33 · answer #10 · answered by jennifer c 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋