My 2 yr. old daughter needs help?

Question

my 2 yr old holds in her bowel movements. I've tried everything from stool softeners, laxitives, juice, sapasitories, and even enimas. nothing works. the enimas do, but she holds it in for so long, and by the time she cant hold it anymore, she will vomit when she has her bm. It gets so bad her breath will smell like her bm's do. I'm afraid she is doing so much damage. I have took her to doc's, and all they do is say min. oil, stool softeners, and juice. I dont know what else to do, I heard I can cause damage if I keep giving her the enimas, but if I dont, it will cause damage. All I can do now is sit and cry, I'm lost. I dont have insurance, or medicade, so I need to know what I can get her over the counter. I give her the enimas every 7 days. And when she does go, it's huge. It's so sad when I see her force herself not to go poopy. She squeezes her checks. And will run and hide. This is not normal, Please help

Answer 1

I suggest you try all-natural Optiflora. I know this doesn't solve the problem of your little one not wanting to go but it will sure help the constipation problem and won't cause her any damage at all. The only side effects are good ones. This supplement is perfectly safe for all ages - infants to seniors.

There was a little three year old girl at my church that was constipated very badly and this took care of it.

This two-product system includes Probiotic (Bifidus & Acidophilus...microflora) + Prebiotic (FOS...food source for microflora). Patented guaranteed delivery of 500 million microflora to intestines.

It's not available OTC but I can give you the website. Feel free to contact me with questions or the website.

Hope this is helpful and God Bless.

Answer 2

I had the same problem with my oldest daughter. People really don't understand. She didn't stop until she was in grade three! It was horrible, the way people react, no one knows what she's going through or what you are. Basically, they told me all the same things. She was on Acilac (stool softener) for years, high fiber diets, flax, metamucil, enemas.... The strange thing was... she finally stopped when she got a barium enema at the hospital. I think it just cleaned her out so well. From there, I kept up with metamucil for a while, until her bowels were a little more normal. Now that's about 4 years ago and she's been great ever since. I'm so sorry you're going through this. I know how hard it is.

Answer 3

I'm so sorry your daughter is suffering You didn't say if she was potty trained yet. Some children have a fear of watching a part of their body go down the drain. First as for diet try feeding her oatmeal it makes bulk yet is soft and wont compact in her intestines. Peanut butter (just enough to give taste) and a fruit spread is good for lunch. Hold back on cheese and meat. This will cut down on the bad breath. If she is potty trained and you don't want to go back to diapers , put her on a potty not attached to the toilet bowl. Let her have control of when she puts it in the toilet and when she flushes. Have her wave by-by to the BM. Let her watch you go to the bath room and have her watch the toilet flush. If you can ,get her to talk about what she is afraid of in the bath room. Try giving her a warm bath in the morning and at night to help her relax. If she goes in the tub don't make a big deal over it just have a scoop to take it out of the tub. Good Luck

Answer 4

If she is of the ability to answer you, you need to find out if it's painful for her to have bowel movements. It could be that her internal organs are producing more than she is able to pass comfortably. (My daughter had this problem.) Sometimes what she eats is a factor, more fruits and veggies, watered down prune juice and less carbs will help lower her "output." I can't imagine a child holding it in unless it was uncomfortable or painful either with cramping or the actual elimination. You may have to just work with the communication to find out why she does. In the mean time, try putting prune juice in her other jucies, or diluting it with sprite, which will naturally soften things up, and A&D ointment is very good for irritation.

Answer 5

It is not normal but common for children around that age to do that. For some reason they become really uncomfortable with the idea of going to the restroom. What I suggest that you do is set up a reward system for her. She's 2 and she will understand. Tell her that if she goes potty she will get this and this benefit. That's what we did with my nephew and I don't promise that it will be one hundred percent successful but it will help. We also talked to him about the importance of going potty, but making it fun helped.

As far as giving her enimas and what not, as a parent you have to do what you have to do and if that is the only thing that will work you have to do it....

Answer 6

it sounds as though your daughter is afraid of having a bowel movement. it could be that she is afraid of losing a part of herself when she uses the bathroom.

i would suggest you sit down with her and talk about going to the bathroom. explain that it is normal, that everyone has to 'go potty'. you might even take her into the bathroom with you when you are having a bowel movement to show her that it is natural and okay. let her look into the toilet after you have done and when you flush, so that she knows it does not hurt and that what is going down the toilet is not actually part of you but waste, like throwing away a papertowel after it has been used.

there are books at the library you can also pick up that tell stories of going to the bathroom and show other little children doing the same thing. i think there is one that is titled 'everybody poops'.

keep using the stool softner and try foods rich in fiber to help promote the bowel movement and always encourage her when she does go and praise her after it is done.

Answer 7

It's too bad you don't have insurance because she really needs to see a child psychologist to find out why she's doing this. Does she think she's being a "bad girl" for having BM's? I feel for her (and you). My grandmother used to whittle bars of soap into a dull point, get them wet and slide it into the rectum of her little ones to induce bowel movements. She said it worked and at least you're not giving medicines all the time. You may try it. Good luck to you.

Answer 8

That's scary too, try being really nice to her like taking her shopping letting her get what she wants only if she promises to go boo boo when she have too. I would say to her "baby, moma want your stomach to feel better so I need you to go potty for me and if you boo boo i'll give you a surprise, okay? " And if she responds well to bribery then you good to go but if not then take her to a doctor anyway. Sometimes you have to take them anyway even if you don't have any insurance. I know I took my daughter last week and we got cut off medicaid last month. So you have to do what's best for her and worry about the bill later.

Answer 9

As soon as possible get her to a child psychologist. This is not something physical, it is mental. Not necessasarily in a bad way, but there is a mental reason she doesn't want to go. Like you said if you continue to treat her with laxatives and enemas it will not be good for her health, but the no bm's is not good either. Please take her to a psychologist, for her sake and yours.

Answer 10

I am so sorry, sounds like you are at wits end and exhausted. Welches grape juice twice daily every day. Or may need to do a scope is there an obstruction ?