2006-09-19 15:50:25 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Take care of your damn self and take him to court for child support....you had sex and knew what could come of it so now you have to handle it even if that means doing it on your own....single mothers do it everyday
2006-09-19 15:53:01 · answer #1 · answered by isthisthingon79 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am not sure if it is depending on different states, but I know that here in Wisconsin, the father is not able to sign off his right unless the child is adopted by another man, (like if you were to marry someone else, and he would adopt your baby, the father of the child would have to give permission for that to take place, and he would be giving up all rights to that child). Fathers here do not have the option of not wanting to take care of the baby. The baby is just as much a part of them, as it is of you. You should be getting child support from him. You will have to take him to court, and you will get a spokeperson for the child (a guardian at light 'em) (I know that is not how it is spelled, but that how it sounds). This person is the advocate for the kids. You will have to go in front of a judge, and you will get child support, provided that he has a job. Hope that helps, good luck to you, and congratulations.
2006-09-19 23:05:52 · answer #2 · answered by rabika97 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with everyone else here. Have the baby and make him pay support. Although it may not be so easy to get it out of him. The only way you will be guaranteed support is garnishing his wages. Hopefully he isn't a job hopper. I had a baby alone and he is 10 years old now. At the time my baby's dad didn't want anything to do with him. I have had his wages garnished. In the past few years "dad" has grown up alot and now wants to see his child. Only my son doesn't want to see him. Completley his choice. "Dad" understands that and is waiting till "son" wants to meet him, and he is real good at paying his support. To top all this off, when my son was two years old I met a man, married him, and that is who "son" calls "DAD". Just remember this:
"ANYONE CAN BE A FATHER, IT TAKES A MAN TO BE A DAD".
You CAN do it on your own. It's not that hard. There is alot of help out there for single moms. Take advantage of it all and make things better for the two of you.
Good luck to you.
2006-09-19 23:05:35 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I have 2 babies, the 1st one, her father told me that he did not want to be in the picture, until I started having child support removed from his check through the state, then he took me to court and I had to have a long drawn out custody battle, the 2nd one, after I got pregnant I told the father and he said he didn't want a child, so I said fine and I never turned him into child support, as I figure it is better that way I don't have to worry about him trying to take him away from me. And when my son gets older, I can always turn him in then and collect back child support, plus interest. So, I think my best advice is if he says he don't want to be a part, you're better off without him. You can always collect back child support later, just think of it as a kind of college fund for your baby.
2006-09-19 23:01:45 · answer #4 · answered by Tammy C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i just recently went through the same thing. and in order to recieve child support you must have the child legitimized if ur not married. Then file for the support. However, if he is ordered to pay then he will have visitation. And if he doesn't take care of ur kid now how do u know he will even if it' court ordered. i left my ex and moved on to someone worth a ****. He raises and supports my son as his own. remember anybody can be a father, BUT IT TAKES A REAL MAN TO BE A DADDY!!!!! if u force him to be there. then he'll half *** do it and the only person who suffers from that is the child.
2006-09-20 00:58:26 · answer #5 · answered by roxy_gal6920 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has it ever once occured to you to take care of the damned baby yourself?
Has it ever occurred to you that if you lack the ability to do so then maybe you're not fit to be a parent?
Get a JOB. Make something of yourself and learn a lesson from it. Forget any ideas about finding another father for the baby and any dumb ideas about having another baby. Your happiness doesn't mean jack anymore- your baby takes priority over everything else regardless of what it is. If you aren't in a position to take care of a baby by yourself then maybe you should consider an adoption.
If nothing else, get a job and at least make the effort instead of relying on the father to pay child support and filing for a welfare check. I decided long ago that I didn't want any children of my own and I don't pay taxes to provide for yours.
I'm not justifying the father's actions but I refuse to condone yours either- this bullshit has to stop somewhere. If you can't use your damned brains before you get knocked up the least you could do is use your brains afterwards.
2006-09-19 23:00:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
i am sorry to hear about that but there is nothing you can really do. if he wants to be irresponsable then so be it. you can't change anyone who isn't willing to. the only time you can change a man is when he is a baby. he is missing out on being in you guys childs life and thats his dumb ***. he may regret it later but he can't blame no one but himself. you don't need a man to do **** for you, eventhough it would be appropriate if he was there for the child. but, you have to be strong. us women have to be strong these days because men take us for granted. they are so primative and think we should be bare-footed pregnant and in the kitchen but that's not the case. we are better than that. you could file for child support where the man has no choice but to pay up so you can get the support you need for the child. but i wouldn't even do that. if you have a job and you are financally stable, you wouldn't need him or his money. money is not going to make up for an absent father. just pray and ask god for the strength and the wisdom to raise your kid by yourself and pray for him and forgive him for walking out on a innocent baby. i wish you the best of luck. you don't need him, girl. trust me.
2006-09-19 23:13:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sue him for support. Go to your aide office and apply for child support. They will want information about the father. Your baby has a right to support. Go get it. Good luck.
2006-09-19 22:59:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
some people dont realize that accidents do happen ,first you must get a dna test to confirm he is the father,second if he is ,take him to court and have him pay child support,if he doesnt ,have the court take it directly out of his check,third and most important,love and cherish your child ,they did not ask to be brought into this world
2006-09-19 22:58:48 · answer #9 · answered by gry w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him, make him pay child support, and find someone who wants to love the baby.
2006-09-20 00:02:28 · answer #10 · answered by jedi_junkie05 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋