I dated this guy for a year and 6 months and i had a miscarriage by him and we broke up and now he is gettin married and i guess i thought that we would always be together and now it is driving me crazy. What should i do?
2006-09-19 15:44:59 · 57 answers · asked by Samantha M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to be strong and be able to understand and make it very clear to yourself that since he is getting married, you have to let him go, because when we love someone, we have to let them know to see if they come back its true love, and if they don't, it never was yours. I know how you feel, very painful, but that's life, love isn't always happy ending, sometimes it hurts like hell and you don't know what hit you. But you have to think about you now and make yourself strong again and move on to the next stage in your life. Its going to be hard, but you have to know that you are going to find your man, this isn't yours yet! Good luck, if you want to talk, im me, irina4gms
2006-09-19 15:51:49 · answer #1 · answered by wantstoknow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guess there is a lot of hurt in this relationship for both of you and his way of coping with it was to move on and have a relationship with another. This way he is able to hide and cope with the miscarriage and the break-up. You need to do the same. I personnally wonder if he has done this now, how long will the new relationship last. You need to make up your mind that life goes on and that it does not end with him. Try going out with friends to areas where you are certain you will not meet or see him. Then you try start dating and see how that works but dont commit to anything too fast as it would be the rebound effect
2006-09-19 16:08:20 · answer #2 · answered by osito 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come to terms that there is NOTHING you can do. Literally. Unless you want to be a Single White Female or Hand That Rocks The Cradle, you best leave it well alone. There are too many great guys out there. Love seems like there is only that special someone, but in reality, another one can make your heart happy if you give it the chance. You have to believe that people are beautiful and so diverse, that it is certain you will find another. But first you got to have faith and let go. Don't think about it. Go out and do stuff with friends.
2006-09-19 15:50:46 · answer #3 · answered by Ilooklikemyavatar..exactly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MOVE ON. what else do u need hun he is not the one 4 u no matter how u feel about it. go n get some counceling 2 help u work out the issues but there is nothing u should do. if u where meant 2 be u would be. he is ur ex 4 a reason n a few years down the line ur gonna be happy that ur not with him.
good luck n stay strong
2006-09-19 15:49:24 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Geo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! That is a tough situation. It is easy for everyone to say "move on" when they aren't in the situation. It is really hard though. You don't feel like you can move on. I would suggest that let your emotions out and do some soul searching for the next couple of days. Then try (I know it is hard when you just wish you were with him) to do things with other people, especially guys. If you find you can have a good time with other people it may help you to feel like you can move on.
2006-09-19 15:51:28 · answer #5 · answered by ineedalotofyou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone. Walk away. Obviously he wants to make a committment with the woman that he feels he loves at this time. If, and only if, he approaches you after breaking up with his current girlfriend, then you can see whether you guys were meant to be.
Just leave him alone for now.
2006-09-19 15:47:26 · answer #6 · answered by BlueLantern 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know the feeling. You've probably heard this before, but the only thing you can do is grieve over the ending of your relationship and then move on. It will take time, and that's OK. Eventually, your heart will heal and life will get easier again.
2006-09-19 15:49:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF you love someone, it is SELFLESS. What you want for him is HIS happiness. Back off and allow him to make his life with the woman he now loves. Move on...it's tough, but it's in your best interest, and he deserves to live his life. This is no longer about you. Good luck...sorry not to have a more 'feel better' answer.
2006-09-19 15:48:44 · answer #8 · answered by maynerdswife 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move Along
2006-09-19 15:47:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey you are better off moving on. He seems to have started a life for himself and that is cruel on you given the circumstances but it will only get messed up if you hang about. Surely you don't want to be second best?!?
2006-09-19 15:47:45 · answer #10 · answered by brown_sugah064 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋