i have a good friend who was raped she became pregnant
she was so freaked out and asked me what to do she thought of getting an abortion im aginst that for me but i dont think it would be fair to put my belifes on her so i told her that anything she decided i would support her because it wasnt my decision to make she and i are both adopted i prayed so hard for that baby and her a mutual friend of ours knew of a couple who wanted to adopt a child and she told my friend so she continued the pregnancy iwhen she told me about her decision i thought i was going to dance i was so happy but i never let on was i supportive enough ?
i have seen him he is wonderful and handsome luckly he looks like her please help to ease my mind thankyou
2006-09-19 15:03:42 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
talk to her about it. let her know how the issue is still weighing on your mind. she will be thankful you care so much about her that you are still worried about how you handled a tough situation with her. then you will have true peace with yourself as well. a million people can tell you you did just fine, but it won't mean a thing unless you hear it from her.
2006-09-19 15:13:46 · answer #1 · answered by prettyhate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you did a a great job being there for your friend in such a hard time in her life. That man who raped her should go to hell. Anyways, How old is your friend. Is she sure that she wants to give up her son? If she does, she should leave her full name so when he grows up he'll be able to try and find her. A photo would be a plus. You should be glad that you've found that baby boy a safe home instead of an orphanage. It was really thoughtful of you to tell yourself that your beliefs are different from yoru friends and still supporting her although what she was planning to go through (the abortion) was against your religon and beliefs. She should be thankful to have such a caring friend. Tell her to hold on to you, true friends are hard to find. Don't ever change.
2006-09-19 15:16:20 · answer #2 · answered by Liliac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
by telling her straight off your against that you automatically put up the barrier of disapproval. so that to me isn't supportive. i think she is an amazing woman for following thru with this pregnancy and that she is willing to put herself thru the pain of adoption to a friend and that she'd have to see this kid for the rest of her life. it's great that you want to support her no matter what but if she changes her mind don't try to talk her out of it. this guy may be great but that is a life long decision for her, and seeing that child may indeed hurt her emotionally. she's scarred enough from the rape, going thru anything else is traumatic no matter what, but i know if i'd have gotten knocked up as the result of my rape, all i'd see is hatred and pain and the fear that i felt that night. i'd be prepared for whatever decision she makes finally and encourage her to seek help whether it's in the form of a shrink or even a support group. i'll pray for your friend that she can be ok and whatever decision is made, that it be the best for her. you are a great friend, she needs you now and you know that or you wouldn't have posted this question. just try your best and be a shoulder to cry on, i'd reccomend taking her to investigate all avenues. adoption, keeping it and abortion. you know the feelings you've had as an adopted child, and i'm guessing she's shared them, that why would she want this kid to feel the same confusion. so be open to helping her make a final decision and support whatever she decides, whatever happens is meant to happen. good luck and stay strong for her!
2006-09-19 15:26:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think you did a great job. Way back--over a decade ago---in high school---I got pregnant, had an abortion and lost my best friend over it. It hurts to this day. Both things. I'm glad to hear you stuck by her no matter what the decision. You are a good friend.
2006-09-19 15:38:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, YOU WERE NOT BEING SUPPORTIVE ENOUGH. IF BOTH OF YOU ALL ARE ADOPTED THEN YOU KNOW HOW IT FEEL NOT TO HAVE YOUR BIOLOGICAL PARENTS THERE, WHY WOULD YOU LET HER PUT THE CHILD THROUGH THE SAME THING. EVEN THOUGH SHE WAS RAPED THAT'S STILL HER CHILD (THEY SHARE THE SAME BLOOD). I HOPE YOU WERE HAPPY ABOUT HER NOT GETTING THE ABORTION INSTEAD OF GIVING THE BABY AWAY.
2006-09-19 15:19:55 · answer #5 · answered by netta j 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
sounds to me like you were a great friend and that you were very supportive, props to your friend for giving another couple the chance to be parents in light of a sad situation
2006-09-19 15:09:45 · answer #6 · answered by clyde0523 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're Godly-gifted, just like many others. Such Angelic response you shalt maintain and use it to serve only for Godly purposes. Remember, not everyone has such a "touch" like you.
2006-09-19 15:17:26 · answer #7 · answered by Lacieles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Putting your beliefs on the side to support a friend is very bold. I for one am proud...
2006-09-19 15:08:00 · answer #8 · answered by Jennifer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you were as supportive as you could be. You let her know your opinion, you prayed with her. You were supportive, and be glad to know that she made the "right decision" ;-)
2006-09-19 15:08:00 · answer #9 · answered by Raina B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes! I'm so glad she didn't have an abortion! It's not fair to sacrafice the life of the child because of the (grrr......) sperm donor. Boy would I like to kick his a**.................
2006-09-19 15:13:46 · answer #10 · answered by Carpet Shark Luver 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋