I am exhausted after a days work, there are toys, clothes everywhere, caked on food on the stove, dishes, cat crap overflowing the litter pan. She never seems to accomplish anything. (maybe a little laundry from time to time) And she has all day to do it when she has off. Even when she is there or not I get dishes done, baths, and housecleaning done around 11 pm. For example, she complains to me after i clean she cannot find something like a medicine dropper, cup, or a certain article of clothing, etc. If she would help out she would be knowledgeable about the whereabouts. Usally when i come home there are diapers to change, dinner to make and the list goes on and on. Im at my wits end, im ready to get my kids out of the house and take them to there grammmas.
2006-09-19 15:02:25 · 15 answers · asked by Mike D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The question is do you still love her? If you do, leaving her is not the best thing for you do. Have a heart-to-heart talk with her. Tell her that you are not Superman who has that perfct strength so you need her help and support in maintaining your home. Tell her that too much stress and workload at the office coupled with stress from the household chores may wear you down which will be more detrimental to your family if ever you get sick.
Maintaining a family, nowadays, is not the sole responsibility of the husband. As far as the financial needs of the family is concerned, it is really his major responsibility but modern days approve of the wife also having a job to support him. Yet still, the major responsibility of maintaning the home and taking good care of the children's needs belongs to the wife. She should know that but you can tell her all those things in a manner that is gentle, understanding, and honest.
Just hope that she really is capable of changing for the better as a responsible wife and mother because if not, despite your heart-to-heart talk with her, I'm sure, she won't ever change. And if that happens, the decision is yours to make whether you can keep up with her with that attitude or not. By that time, search your heart and soul and do what your heart and mind dictate. All the best.
2006-09-19 15:15:18 · answer #1 · answered by Ruzzo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
STOP doing EVERYTHING! It will only take a couple days and she will come to the table to talk. It may be a miserable couple days but in the end it's a must to get it worked out. Even if she only helps a little after your so called household labor strike, your ahead of where you are now and may even gain some appreciation along the way. Don't make it grandma's problem though. You built the family. You get to fix it. Time to stand up like the man we know you can be. Good Luck....
2006-09-19 15:09:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 07:32:44 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does she know u are upset about this? How many kids is she watching during the day, how old are they? Watching small kids is a job alone. But she should be able to cook and clean up alittle too. I do with four kids, plus iron my husbands clothes for him. talk to her about you feel maybe she will change, if not get out while you can because u just wont be happy doing everything!!!!! Plus u shouldnt have to.
2006-09-19 15:22:01 · answer #4 · answered by jeanjean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to share the load man! 50-50. List all the chores and have her pick the ones she wants to do. This will give her some incentive.Then you do the rest. Make a list of where everything should go when cleaning.
2006-09-19 15:07:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about it give her a time limit to change if she dont change then do what your planning on.. Tell her ur to ur wits end and which I am the opposite of you he works and I clean and go to school.. But when he is home he does nothing but mess.. But we talked and things are slowly changing he helps with laundry cause most of it is his and he helps on the week end... Just try
2006-09-19 15:06:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whenever I feel like not cleaning anything, it usually means that I'm kind of bored with the place. Try rearranging things! It's a breath of fresh air and makes things more "exciting"....
2006-09-19 15:08:23 · answer #7 · answered by "B" 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh man i hear you it msut piss you off that she its in her *** all day and does **** (no offense) talk to her abotu it and explain to her make her understand that she could help around the house a little more k and ummm if that doesnt work then think abotu hwo long this is going to go on and if you relaly want to have a girlfirend like that
2006-09-19 15:05:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Was she always like that? Could she possibly be depressed? I guess the only thing you can do is give her an ultimatum... If she doesn't start to contribute more then you'll have to take your kids to their Gram's.
2006-09-19 15:06:08 · answer #9 · answered by Mommy2Liam 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow, you're a punk. get someone that will help out. why should you do the laundry? i blame that on you because you should've went for a girl that automatically does these types of things. don't go falling for a woman that you kn ow won't take care of you like your mother did. duh ...
2006-09-19 15:05:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋