She's not much over 100 lbs, she's 15, and persists in telling me she has love handles and pudge everywhere. Not just the joking, "I'm so fat" stuff either. Are there any ways other than "No you're not" to say she's just, NOT FAT!?
2006-09-19 14:31:18 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ur her boyfriend, so just tell her that you love her and thinks that she's beautiful exactly the way she is. talk to her and let realize all of her great qualities. If she loves you enough, she will listen.
you seem like a great guy, and i wish you the best of luck.
2006-09-19 14:35:38 · answer #1 · answered by Alyssy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is a condition (i can not think of it's name right now) whereby some people think that their body is far bigger etc than it is. it is often associated with those who have eating disorders, and is basically where the person can only see their 'faults' and these are blown out of proportion in their mind.
i have suffered it most of my life, and there are times when i don't feel like i can leave the house because i am scared that everyone will think i am fat. and truly, i am right in my healthy weight range and have been underweight, so logic would have to tell me that i am not. but that doesn't always quieten the small (sometimes loud) voices inside.
just be there for her, and make sure she knows you think she is beautiful. that will help. and be understanding too. she might be small, but in her mind she is the size of an elephant.
2006-09-19 14:36:36 · answer #2 · answered by girl3blonde 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's very immature. She probably gets it from her mother. Tell her to SHUT UP already. Tell her if she says it again in your presence, you will drop her off at home. AND DO IT! She will then start respecting you and what you say. If you are afraid to loose her, then you are dumb as he!! because when a girl knows that, they will walk all over you and do more annoying things. Right now she's testing the waters to see what you'll do.
2006-09-19 14:36:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to get over herself and stop acting like a little attention w#ore. She says those things to get you and others to compliment her. From now on when she whines about how fat she is just tell her how pathetic she is and walk away. Don't give in to her begging for your attention and she'll stop doing it.
2006-09-19 14:36:24 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, ask her why she feels like that & try to talk 2 her...shes probably not confident w/ herself but tell her all the great things that she has!!! Good Luck!!!
2006-09-19 14:35:08 · answer #5 · answered by solymar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take her out and show her what fat looks like. maybe she just wants you to tell her she's not. maybe if she really thinks she is fat and believes it she more than likley needs to see a doctor.
2006-09-19 14:36:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's a psychological thing...body dysmorphic disorder...and if you and people around her cannot convince her otherwise, it's time to see a doctor (ie. psychologist)
2006-09-19 14:34:16 · answer #7 · answered by KingRichard 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u and her take off her cloths and say see? were the same stomach size and im not fat.
2006-09-19 14:38:52 · answer #8 · answered by amish_demon_boy 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
she's not fat i'm not fat and i weigh 104 and i'm 13!! your friend is not fat tell her i said this!!!
2006-09-19 14:34:23 · answer #9 · answered by Mater_rocks!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe someone has told her that... and some people get obsessed with it and make them-self sick to try n get skinny,, look at that lil Olson girl.
2006-09-19 14:34:12 · answer #10 · answered by blwatson41 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋