I went on this blind date. It's been a week and he hasn't called. In my head in some ways before he didn't call I wasn't sure I wanted him to. So why am I so upset now? He was extremely nice and complimentary. We seemed to get along well. And he asked if he could call me. He hasn't and obviously he's not going to. I didn't really find him attractive at all. But he has a really good job. I liked his personality his smile and laugh. So I kind of was debating on whether to go out again. But we did have some differences like he's jewish and I'm catholic and I told him this during the date. But also before the date. So I guess I felt it was my looks since he hasn't called. Yet it wasn't like I was head over heels for him. I liked him and thought maybe I could become more attracted over time. But now all I keep doing is wondering what's wrong with me that he didn't call me. I mean I was at least at the same level lookwise, not to brag but probably better.
2006-09-19 14:30:16 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Of course I didn't act better, because I have low self esteem anyway. Blind dates just aren't a good idea for me I guess. If they don't call then there's something wrong with me and I dwell on this!!!
2006-09-19 14:31:48 · update #1
Things happen for a reason.
2006-09-19 14:32:41 · answer #1 · answered by annastasia1955ca 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal for it to bother you. The reason it's bothering you although you didn't like him all that much was because this incident lowered your self-esteem. You shouldn't take his not calling you personally. Or rather, you should take it very personally. What he's saying isn't that you're not good looking enough or interesting enough. Him not calling you only means that you aren't the girl he's looking for. It's not a question of being good enough. It's a question of being the right thing.
If you hadn't met on a blind date, you may have hit it off as great friends. But as things stand, that isn't possible. Don't let it worry you. Some guy will be exactly the guy you want (looks and everything) and you will be exactly the girl he's looking for. Until you date, trying to find that one guy.
Good luck. I doubt a great girl like you needs luck, but everyone could use a little more of it :)
2006-09-19 21:39:25 · answer #2 · answered by Magina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chemistry obviously doesn't click between you and him. Loneliness may have cause you to think this way. You got to learn to accept who you are, your outlook, your behavior etc. Do you know that who is your trully greatest enemy and your best friend is? It is YOU. You got to 'kill' this enemy and stop her from tormenting you with negative thoughts but instead shower her with love. Pamper her with nice and blissful thoughts, dress her up like a princess, feeds her well etc. There is nothing wrong about you. So stay positive in life and you will find happiness. Write to me with you want ok.
2006-09-19 21:39:51 · answer #3 · answered by Nice Guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he sensed that you weren't really into him and was just trying to be polite. Or he is just waiting some time before calling you so that he doesn't look desperate (guys do weird things like that sometimes).
2006-09-19 21:33:22 · answer #4 · answered by Mommy2Liam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have this "what if" question hanging over your head. At the back of your head you're wondering "what if" he called? "what if" I really would like him? or other things like that. Maybe you haven't noticed it but these what if's are there.
2006-09-19 21:37:30 · answer #5 · answered by Halcyon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not contact him and ask him to join you for a frank discussion of the date, and dating in general.there could be many, many reasons he didn't call you, that have nothing to do with your selfworth.the problem, as i see it, is that your self-esteem is taking a nose dive.
2006-09-19 21:37:08 · answer #6 · answered by Sam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who knows, girl? maybe he got together with an ex, or was feeling a lower vibration than you even were. i know if someone is compelled by you and want to get to know you better, they would call. maybe it was the chemistry or the timing. perhaps it was not meant to be. leave it alone. he has your digits.
2006-09-19 21:33:28 · answer #7 · answered by evonne i 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No there is nothing wrong with you. You just were not his type. Move on find someone else that is worth your time
2006-09-19 21:33:48 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs. Brown 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its just the fact that he hasn't called and it makes you feel like he was not interested...its kinda like it hurts your ego. Cause you weren't really all that interested in him its just that he is not interested in you.
Don't worry...there are lots more fish in the sea.. :)
2006-09-19 21:33:40 · answer #9 · answered by jessdjnick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he doesn't want to be with a wishy washy person like you. Just read what you wrote....my goodness...you make me wish I didn't even click on this question.
2006-09-19 21:33:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋