alright. here my delimma. My mother does not like my friend just because she do not like her parents. So when i go out and she asked me who took u i say another friend's name. I feel guilty because i am lying to her but if i told her the truth she would get upset just because she do not like her parents. wat should i do? there no point to tell the truth but it no reason to lie...
2006-09-19 14:10:18 · 7 answers · asked by aznken901 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I would have to say, the truth is always better. If you lie, eventually I think it will catch up with you, and things will be worse than if you just come right out and be honest about it to start with. If your parents are told you went with one friend and you were in an accident or something, it would be hard enough for them to see you hurt, but then to have them see you hurt and that youve been lying to them all this time would make it even harder on them. I always tell my kids the truth is always best, no matter how hard it may seem, a lie just makes it 10times worse in the long run. Just think about it, how would you feel if your kids lied to you, or if your parents lied to you, I don't think you would like it. No one likes to be lied to especially by some one whom they love and are trying to protect. As far as your mom not liking this person, it sounds like a personal problem, she doen't have to be friends with them or like their parents, she'll just have to get over it, or go around it one.
2006-09-19 14:31:35 · answer #1 · answered by ky gal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. If you want to find out why she doesn't like the parents, ask.
2. She maybe does not want them as the other in-laws, some day, that she will have to socialize with.
3. Listen to her, and try to see her point of view. It may, or may not, be rational, but you need to air things with her.
4. You need to tell her if you are serious about the girl. If she's just someone you're dating, but not serious, let your Mom know. It may take the edge off of things.
Good luck and warm regards.
2006-09-20 03:25:17 · answer #2 · answered by mitch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be up front with her. Tell her the truth. Even if it doesnt pan out the way you want it too, you wont have the feeling of guilt.
If she insists that you dont go out with this girl because of her parents, tell her (in a calm fashion) that its fine, but if you happen to meet up with her while out with another person and hook up then there is nothing that she can do short of telling you cant go out at all and we know that isnt going to happen.
If she wont listen to reason and make an effort to reason then she hasnt got anyone to blame for the hurt feelings but herself.
2006-09-19 21:18:15 · answer #3 · answered by billydeer_2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK I dont think its fair that your mom is trying to limit your friendships just because she doesnt like your friend's parents. If you really like this person and want to be friends with them, you shouldnt base it on what your mom thinks about their parents. You should try to talk to your mom honestly about it and tell her that you are still going to be friends with this person anyway. If she still isn't happy or disagrees or w/e then fine, I think you should lie about it.
2006-09-19 21:19:13 · answer #4 · answered by hco_meredith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there may be valid reasons for your mom to dislike your friends parents. open a dialogue with your mom. u appear to be sure of your friend. try to reason to her that if anything serious comes up you would consult her. but keep mom's advice in the background all the time. if you keep talking to her about the issue, she may cool down.
2006-09-19 21:15:38 · answer #5 · answered by HMG M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should probably tell her, because she will probably end up finding out sometime and get even more upset with you
2006-09-19 22:37:05 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Megs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no lying. it will come back to haunt you. convince mom that your friend is ok.
2006-09-19 21:19:25 · answer #7 · answered by La-z Ike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋