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ok i'm 30 and a female and i can't seem to relax enough to have an orgasm with a partner i get close and then nothing happens i can't seem to get there if you know what i mean has this ever happened to anyone else . i have them when i masturbate as long as the lights are out and the door is shut and i'm under covers and i know no one is home

2006-09-19 14:07:20 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

6 answers

This is obviously a problem in your mind, not your body, since you orgasm when its completely dark and private. First, is it the aspect of sex itself (did you grow up hearing sex is "dirty", etc) or is it the idea of letting go in front of another person (wondering what they might think of you, worried about your body, etc?) Think about where the problem might stem from and that will help you figure out how to solve it.

2006-09-19 14:11:26 · answer #1 · answered by gahrahstah 4 · 1 0

Drink a little booze to loosen you up and make you relax. Or, spend a couple of days with one guy, and you will be more comfortable with him.

2006-09-19 21:11:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

First you have to find a way to let go of what happened to you when you were younger. Or you probably just like to use your imagination a lot...

2006-09-19 21:21:55 · answer #3 · answered by perfectanjyl22 2 · 0 0

Try spending more time with him, or even have him masturbate with you, and it will make you more comfortable and relaxed when with him.

2006-09-19 21:12:51 · answer #4 · answered by crazyduck5000 2 · 1 0

you just need to let your body go and relax and dont think about trying to come.... usually when i do, my body just is limp...just gotta relax

and ill agree that a little booze can greatly help you relax, it makes you uninhibited

2006-09-19 21:14:30 · answer #5 · answered by Skeeterbug M 3 · 1 0

you get on top and negotiate the entire play. your speed, your timing, your way.
you'll have one. guaranteed.

2006-09-19 21:12:13 · answer #6 · answered by michael r. Doe 2 · 1 0

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