Here's the deal... my boyfriend and I moved into my uncles three bedroom home two months ago. We moved to save money for a place that we were getting renervated, though we are paying him rent in return. Anyway, my uncle, at first, said he'd love for us to stay. Even asked if we could stay an extra month to help with his bills. Well, just last week we had an arguement about something really small and now he wants us out and our place isn't ready yet. See, he's a very confrontational person. Very spiteful and coniving. I just need some advise of what to do. I've tried talking to him, telling him that the whole disagreement wasn't as serious as he's taking it, but he's standing his ground and he wants us out. What should I do. And I know the moving out part is pretty much evident. But I really want to salvage our relationship... he's family after all. Any suggestions?
2006-09-19 13:36:32 · 13 answers · asked by Essence 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The arguement was about groceries. I put $50 toward food each week. He felt it wasn't enough. I felt it was since we also pay him $500 a month for rent.
2006-09-19 13:44:49 · update #1
Try one more time to talk to him, and also tell him you are family, and I respect you, and I hope that we can resolve this. If he still does not want to hear it, leave, just to keep the peace. Some people you just can't get through, they are so closed minded. may be your mother, or another family member can talk to him, say a prayer!!
2006-09-19 13:42:48 · answer #1 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want to salvage your relationship with your uncle then find somewhere else to go. The best thing in a situation like this is space so that the injured party has time to cool off. But I think that you were right not to give more than what you already do because of how much you give him for rent. It sounds like he is just a money hungry tyrant.
Just go somewhere esle until your new place is finished and sooner or later things will be better between you two. Don't worry so much besides you are family and blood is thicker than water ( or in this case money).
2006-09-19 22:16:10 · answer #2 · answered by katie b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may noy be able to salvage the relationship until after you move out. he may need some time to think about how small the arguement was but may only be able to do that after hes home alone. if your uncle is all the things you say he is about bein coniving and spiteful do u really want to salvage the relationship right away?
2006-09-19 20:41:42 · answer #3 · answered by packin_mag44 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him some time to cool off, do you have a friend you could stay a couple days with, then go back and talk to him, maybe offer to take him to dinner and explain to him that you'll move if he wants but HE is what is important to you. Tell him you love him and want to work things out. Chances are it will blow over and you may even get to stay with him after all. Seems like he needs your help as much as you need his right now!
2006-09-19 20:40:47 · answer #4 · answered by Shae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After you have moved out & everyone has had a chance to cool off, THEN try to talk to him. Let him know you don't want the relationship to be damaged. Take it slow.
2006-09-19 20:40:55 · answer #5 · answered by from HJ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's easy. Move out, give him time to cool off, then aplogize to him. It doesn't matter that the topic of the argument was trivial in your opinion. To your Uncle it was not.
2006-09-19 20:41:19 · answer #6 · answered by Hidden .38 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see if there is another family member you can stay with. when your place get ready move into it. That should be a lesson learnd you can't depend on anyone and that means family too sometimes
2006-09-19 20:41:55 · answer #7 · answered by peaches 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
UMM hard one. See if you can get a few extra bucks to crash at a motel for a few nights. Or ask your mom, dad, or any other family. Have him ask his family if you can stay at one of his family members house. I hope everything is ok.
2006-09-19 20:40:47 · answer #8 · answered by Matt: aka; Edge is world champ!! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously he thinks whatever you were arguing about was serious, so maybe you should take it seriously too. An apology might help.
2006-09-19 20:40:38 · answer #9 · answered by Gypsy Girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't tellin us what the argument was about......very hard to understand the whole picture and comment on it when not told.
2006-09-19 20:39:35 · answer #10 · answered by Geez Louise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋