Wives and Moms when doing the laundry do you check the pockets of everything?

Question

My live in boyfriend is mad at me cause I washed his wallet for like the fourth time, I told him when we moved in together I have one rule about laundry, I don't mind doing it but I don't do pockets. He was warned! He now is ticked off cause his wallet is wet because he said I'm "too lazy" to check the pockets...I say he's too lazy to empty them when he takes the damn pants off to begin with, I mean how hard is it for crying out loud?? I am seriously mad at him now cause he is acting like this is my fault. Should I stand my ground or give in and check his pockets?? I feel disrespected since I do ALL the housework, ALL the cooking, ALL the errands, ALL the shopping...I don't work and he does and I told him that I think he could check the pockets to save me some time to relax....he thinks because he works that I relax more than he does. On the weekend he just does nothing and I still have to cook and clean...I think he can do one thing to help me that I asked!

Answer 1

Nope I don't check them either. I have washed my husbands cell phone before due to him leaving it in his pocket. I figure if he put it in the pocket he can take it out too, lol.

A friend of my husband's wife used to wake her husband up and ask him if he needed whatever was in his pockets and finally he got tired of her asking and so he told her that anything else that she finds in his pockets she can have and wouldn't you know it, the next day he left his paycheck in his pocket ( he got paid monthly ) and he hears all this joyous noise and wonders what is going on and then she tells him that he left the check in the pocket and now it is mine, LOL LOL

Answer 2

Get rid of the momma's boy. Send him packin on back to his momma. She obviously babied him so let her deal with it. I'm single and live alone and i always check my own pockets before washing because once or twice i may have left something in there but not very often. You cook, clean, do the laundry, the shopping, the errands etc....... Better yet, leave him and come live with me. I do it all myself but it would be nice to share it with someone.

Answer 3

He should check his own pockets or do his own laundry. If he has a problem with the way you do things let him do it. Just because he goes to work outside the house doesn't mean he has to make you feel guilty. You work in the house like he works outside. Stand your ground don't give in.

Answer 4

Your rule is the same one in our house. My wife will do the laundry but is not responsible for checking the pockets. If the guys want to keep their money or valuables, that's our job. Any money she finds is hers to keep. Now, if she were to notice something heavy like a wallet, she would take it out for us, but she wouldn't necessarily notice if the load is a big one. So, I say your rule is reasonable and it's not your fault.

Answer 5

NO! its there pants and there pockets, I am responsible for getting them clean not empting the pockets.... Your not to lazy to check the pockets HE is... if he is upset that you cant check his pockets maybe he needs to do his own laundry. I gather the laundry, wash it, fold and hang it, sort it and put it away... he can check his own pockets, its the least he can do. Are you responsible for his wallet all the time? Does he take care of your purse? Check your pockets for you?

Answer 6

Tell him to either empty the pockets or do all his own laundry. Or a even better easier fix...TAKE OUT EVERYTHING FROM HIS POCKETS LIKE YOU ASKED! Men are ignorant, especially about laundry and rules.

Answer 7

I check my son's pockets, but not my husband's. He is a big boy and can do it all by himself. Your husband is upset because his wallet got ruined and he is looking for someone to blame other than himself, but he is the guilty party. Make him do his own laundry and you will never ever have this problem again.

Answer 8

No I just trust if there was something in the pockets worth anything they wouldn't be left in the pockets would they?
Plus my husband is really good about keeping the pockets neat and cleaned out. : )

Answer 9

let him do his laundry...stand ur ground dont wash anything of his (well dont wash anything with pockets) for about 2 or 3 weeks when he runs out of clothes tell him the he said u were not doing it right so he can do it...

Answer 10

If you would find something in his pocket that you were not supposed to, he would complain too and say that you are nosy so let him do his own if you don't do it good enough for him.