about 2 years ago my grandmother kidnaped me when i was at a friends house, brought me back to her house and tryed to kill me. thank god for cell phones and i got the police to come and take me back home to my mother before i got hurt too bad. thing is i still wont speak to her and my mom wants me to forgive her. i dont see why i should when she tryed to kill me but my mom says that shes just crazy and its not her fault. should i talk to my grandmother again and pretend like nothing happend?
2006-09-19 13:25:44 · 17 answers · asked by Kitty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sorry but forgiving someone who tried to kill you only says that its okay that she tried to do that. You have every right to not forget and forgive her and every reason to be on guard when it comes to her. Crazy or not if she tried it once whats to say she won't attempt it again. And maybe succeed this time around. Your mom shouldn't push you to do something you don't want to.
2006-09-19 13:29:27 · answer #1 · answered by jewell2578 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find it so very unfortunate that something like that happened to you. However my advice is that you can always forgive a person deep in your heart for something like that, but in a way that you wouldn't let it stop you from moving on with your life in the best way. Don't forget, in which you won't anyways totally because it will always stay in the back of your head. However don't forget in a way that it doesn't cause you to hate your grandmother. Also you mother needs to stop making excuses for what your grandmother did, unless she has some truthful way of explaining why she feel that it really wasn't your grandmother's fault for what she did.
2006-09-19 20:35:54 · answer #2 · answered by Ms.Worry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that in time you may, or may not forgive her in your heart, at your own time in your own way. This is all up to YOU. You were the Victim. I would not want to talk to her or have anything to do with her, ever. I also think that anyone to pressure you to have anything to do with her is Definitely Child Abuse, without any Doubt at all. I also don't think your Grandma is the only Crazy one. "IF YOU THINK YOU ARE RIGHT, NEVER LET ANYONE MAKE YOU BELIEVE YOU'RE WRONG." My 4th Grade Teacher told me that. I dedicated a poem to her. She changed my life. I'm also not surprised. I had experience with a criminal child abuse case, and the adults, in the situation, did the same similar kind of thing. If you need, get coulceling, talk to someone at school, whatever, report your mother, whatever, Do not allow yourself to be abused more. This kind of behavior is all too common. None of this is your fault. And it's OK to feel however, you feel. If you don't forgive, that's OK, too! I probably would never forgive her, but I doubt that I would ever forgive my mother for this! This really makes me furious. You feel how you feel. What is wrong with your mother? Please tell your Mom to BACK OFF, and LEAVE YOU ALONE. DROP IT. This is her issue, not yours. If she doesn't pressure you, you're more likely to deal with it on your own, but you don't need her pressure on top of a tremendous Trauma. You are not alone, this goes on all the time, usually in sex abuse cases.
2006-09-19 20:53:10 · answer #3 · answered by noface 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forgive and you shall be forgiven. now that's if you believe in god. which i do. you will find out that when you can forgive her and i mean truly forgive her in the matter that you never talk or even bring this subject up again you will have this weird feeling that a load of trouble has been taken from you. give it a try, it might change your out look on life
2006-09-19 20:37:48 · answer #4 · answered by turnaround 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that your own mother does not take your side is horrible. The safety and well-being of her daughter should be her #1 priority.
If this really happened, then you should stand up for yourself, and not have any more contact with a dangerous, abusive person (crazy or not).
2006-09-19 20:30:11 · answer #5 · answered by LilyDaisy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to forgive her so that you can go forward but that doesn't mean that you have to associate with her. If something is wrong with her that's all the more reason to stay away from her. your mother or somebody needs to get her some help.
2006-09-19 20:30:00 · answer #6 · answered by delta s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If YOU really want to talk to her (not your mother), then do it.....Talk from a distance, and tread lightly! If your life is important to you, why take such chances? Crazy is, as crazy does! And crazy is running around free! Be cautious. Forgive her, but don't put yourself in harm's way.
2006-09-19 21:11:20 · answer #7 · answered by Jai 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, dont pretend it dint happen just tell her you dint like it and keep your distance. if she insists on seeing you in person just say you dont feel safe around her. If she really is crazy she will try to make it better since people with mental problems never really want to hurt anyone.
2006-09-19 20:28:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgive but DO NOT forget. Your mother implies that she is not mentally stable. For this reason, exercise caution when meeting her; ask an adult to be in attendance (preferrably some one very large and very strong.)
2006-09-19 20:29:36 · answer #9 · answered by Albannach 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgiveness is one of the major things that get you to heaven if you want to get there you have to forgive + if she is crazy and doesn't know what she is doing you really should forgive her : )
2006-09-19 20:37:08 · answer #10 · answered by Lauren D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋