We both still love each other and we do see each other throughout the week and most of the time end up in bed together. Am I wasting my time sticking around thinking that we are going to get back together??
2006-09-19 13:16:02 · 12 answers · asked by Amber K 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What, what, wha??? Broke up? In who's mind? If you quit a job but keep showing up, and the boss keep letting you work, and paying you. Can you say you quit? Or was fired? The only way you are broken up is by word only, not by deed. And if you both still love each other, as you say, then why are you broke up but still having sex? the logic doesn't add up. But here is what does:
He said he is done with the relationship because he wants to be free to look for something better. So the conversation part of your relationship to him is dead. All that is left is the sex. And when he finds better for that, he is gone and you are left holding shattered memories.
You, being tired of his inattention say you are done, but can not let go because you really want to be with him but frustrated because you can't get back the out-of-the-bedroom magic you had when you 1st met. that is why you haven't put a cork in the honey box because YOU really do not want him to go away forever just start to see you as more than a human j*** o** rag(which by the way, ain't working)
The question "walk away or stay?" IS it. Because it is not "go back or stay away?" the way you subconsciously framed the question alludes to the fact. You are both still so much together just in a busted nonfunctional relationship, outside a purely physically sexual one.
You have 3 choices:
Get him to see different and change his attitude;
Accept the realtionship as just physical.
Or go find sothing else.
They way it is going. I say go find something else. Like food you love but are allergic to. You have to pass on it. Say I would love to eat it but it does me no good, and go get something you love that IS good.
2006-09-25 21:24:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whooohhh! It already sounds like you are back together in the biggest way possible. If not........ask yourself if you are using each other until something better comes along? If breaking up was his idea and he doesn't want to commit.....then the bottom line is he is using you for sex. You are wasting your time if he hasn't wanted to be on a permanent basis, but doesn't mind satisfying his sexual needs. I really already think you should know to walk away if you are wanting more than just sex. Don't be used, because sleeping with someone probably means something more than just convenient sex.
2006-09-19 13:24:59 · answer #2 · answered by Geez Louise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lady.... he is getting what he wants, with no strings attached.... You are stil sleeping with him, which is great for both of you, but even better for him, because he doesnt have any of the emotional baggage or the commitment that comes with being in a relationship... i think youre wasting your time... stop sleeping with him and then if he is still hanging around, ask him what he wants from you? Tell him you dont want to keep sleeping with him if its going nowhere...!
2006-09-19 13:30:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea, sorry to say you are. He is loving you but not in love with you. He adores you and enjoys you, but he is not with you cus he does not want to be bottom line. He is looking for or waiting for the one he does want to be with and then he will stop sleeping with you and you will be heart broken. Check out the book "he is just not that into you" . I have been there honey and it sucks cus you love him and want to be with him. You want him to want to be with you. It will not happen this way. You need to walk and watch him try to get you to not. At least then he will have to make a choice. He is getting the pie and has no reason to invest in the baker right now. Good luck with your heart. Listen to it. Not the love you feel for him. There is a fine difference that is hard to notice.
2006-09-19 13:21:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as though both of you need to grow up. As far as moving on, what are you waiting for ?
2006-09-19 13:20:15 · answer #5 · answered by Steve B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that. From my own experience, it's just "familiar" sex & you should walk away. Yes, it hurts, but time does heal.
2006-09-19 13:23:10 · answer #6 · answered by 5150 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make up sex isnt the answer ur better than that in every way possible way ok... if a fight should be ended then it should not be ended that way lol
2006-09-19 13:21:16 · answer #7 · answered by FoB_NoZ_hIs_S*** 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let me try to say this in a nice way he is just using you to get some a55 get rid of him fast who knows who else he's been with and who knows what he'll give you
2006-09-19 13:20:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
AS LONG AS YOU SLEEP WITH HIM , WHY IN THE WORLD DOES HE NEED TO GET BACK TOGATHER WITH YOU...
2006-09-19 13:20:16 · answer #9 · answered by moe 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is using you for sex.....DUH!!! Stop acting like a cheap HO.
2006-09-19 13:19:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋