I'm 21, never had a girlfriend, and lately it has been really bothering me. How can I be content while I am not in a relationship, and do you have any tips for finding a girlfriend?
2006-09-19 13:15:32 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well you need to be happy with yourself before a girl can really make you happy. Girls are attracted to assertive guys...do you take care of yourself? Work out, go to school, have a stable job, have a good car, basically do you take yourself seriously?
Also you'll want to find a girl with the same interests as you, so go places you enjoy and start conversations, be curtious and sweet and you're bound to run into a girl that you like. Just be confident in who you are....a girl won't complete you, she'll just add to what great things you already have going on.
2006-09-19 13:18:29 · answer #1 · answered by CR2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Finding a girlfriend is not hard but I am curious that how can you relate contentment to having a girlfriend. Contentment is a state of mind where in family, love, money nothing matters. It is a state of such mental peace that one wants nothing! so tell me after having a girlfriend would all your desires be quenched? it is highly improbable. so don't look for contentment in a girlfriend but find it inside of you...... yes find a girlfriend for the right reasons like love, companionship etc, etc. There are also no tips on how to find a girlfriend or how to hook up with a girl, when the time is right it will happen till then be happy with girls who are friends! also develop your personality, be a good conversationalist , have a great humor and above all a good listener.
Goodluck!
2006-09-19 20:22:27 · answer #2 · answered by imhm2004 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i think in orded to find a girlfriend you should try to maybe freshen your look up a bit. Don't be afraid to take chances and just ask soeone out, if you don't, then don't expect her to fall from the sky. Rejection isn't so bad, if you don't sweat the small stuff.
But I see no problem to the fact that you dunt have a gf your probably a really smart, successful guy and those are bother great qualities..... you'll find someone eventually.
2006-09-19 20:20:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, i'm 21 too and never had a true boyfriend, to give him my hand at spring and crying on his shoulder when some bad thing happens to me... (because kisses in the dance-floor don't count)!
But yet, I'm still happy, I've got great friends, and I'm quite free to decide which live I want to choose without a anybody to have a word in it!
I didn't want to chose between a boy and study abroad for instance. But as soon as I'll know me, I'll be ready to meet someone.
If you think you're ready for a relationship, love will come I'm sure!
2006-09-19 20:22:54 · answer #4 · answered by Gina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May be you was getting your life together, and that is why you are so content. It is nothing wrong with that, Library, is a good start, to meet girls, join a club, happy hour at a club. and sometimes when you are not looking some one walks right into your life. You will find some one, because I think you have it together.
2006-09-19 20:22:36 · answer #5 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pornography.
Finding a girlfriend is not a trivial task, unless you happen to be very goodlooking, because girls are as superficial as the rest of us. Other basics that help are: having a good job or well on the way to one, emotionally stable (ie, don't be needy or volatile), not APPEARING to only want sex, capable of being polite and modest and understanding of another person's feelings....
Okay, there are all sorts of things that different girls like, and a lot of it is finding one that has the same personality as you. Treat as anything else you want to be successful in life: work at it, be dedicated, willing to make mistakes and learn (because you will make a LOT of mistakes, trust me), etc etc etc.
2006-09-19 20:22:24 · answer #6 · answered by s_e_e 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should first be content with yourself. Secondly, from my own experience, if you look for a relationship it won't happen. Good things come to those who wait. Yes, waiting sucks, but that's just the way it is. All the luck to you & don't settle for the first thing that comes along.
2006-09-19 20:18:57 · answer #7 · answered by 5150 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok haha im 12 ok i have had 2 girlfreinds this year and im still with #2 now dont let that get u down tho because it is simple.
look around ur college,clubs,freinds w/e and altho this is chessy folo ur heart get the girl that u no u can get if u try but just find someone who would make u happy and persue them goodluck!!!!
2006-09-19 20:18:55 · answer #8 · answered by liddledapopome 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take a look at yourself, pal. You need a make over of the mind, body and soul. Ask a close guy friend to give you some honest opinions and try to see how you can improve your chances.
2006-09-19 20:18:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
the best tips i can give is live your life, and you'll meet some one. someone who wasn't looking, while you weren't looking, and you'll just see. i know that sounds so cheesy but yeah. well, just let go of it, my friends are always on about it too, and i'm still alive, and i love without it being returned, but that's the beauty, you can be free, and just be yourself, and not expect anyone or anything extrodinary, and something will happen, i promise you.
2006-09-19 20:44:42 · answer #10 · answered by allena s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋