if u know that a guy like you and u like him. he said he doesn't have a girlfriend. i don't understand why he is not saying anything. i know he like me and other people at my job knows this that he stare at me every time and think he like me and i know this too. he like to talk to me and i am trying to stay away from him because i really like him and i can't stand the fact he is not asking me out.
i thought he didn't like me and i was wrong about that because he does like me,
now i think it because of my race. we are black and white and
do u think my race is the problem and if it is what do you think i should do?
2006-09-19 13:04:35 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You know, you could just casually ask him if he wanted to go grab some coffee (tea, milk, beer, etc..) after work.
Then you two could talk outside of work, start just chatting about whatever, see where it goes.
If he says no to the invite, then I would think that is a clear indication that he doesn't want to spend time with you outside of work and is happy to just stare at you.
There is no law that says a woman has to wait for a man to ask them out. It's ok for women to ask men out if they want.
Race is a problem only if he or you make it one. He might, we don't know at this point so if you're really interested, take a chance.
2006-09-19 13:10:55 · answer #1 · answered by seaelen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, looks like you made a Freudian slip in your question: Hornest respond. Horny response? Or Honest response? He is horny, he thinks you are hot and you are probably horny and think he is hot too. Maybe race does make a difference in his mind, there is nothing you can do about it. But if he likes you and talks to you alot, then just keep being his friend, maybe his fears about race will fade with time.
2006-09-19 20:09:41 · answer #2 · answered by Hi T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont ask us. Ask him! Sit him down and talk to him. Tell him how you feel about him and ask him directly how he feels about you. If you stay away from him or avoid him he may never give clear signals.
Dont think about the black and white issue. You cant read his mind. If he was a racist or scared, he wouldnt even look at you.
Be aggressive. Your goal is to get him to s h i t or get off the pot so to speak. DONT play games with feelings. You can get hurt.
E-mail me if you want more advice about guys.
I am 56 years old, happily married, and had girfriends all over the world. I am happy to help. If you are a minor you need not e-mail me.
Anyway good luck
2006-09-19 20:15:05 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is shy and afraid that you will reject him or maybe it's because you work together or maybe it is your race or maybe he just wants to be friends. my point is that it could be any number of things/reasons that are keeping him from asking you out. why not ask him out? at least you will know one way or another. if you are too shy go out with a friend and get him to bring a friend or go out in a group. good luck. plus if it is a race thing do you want to be with someone like that? it's better to ask now and then you don't have to spend any more time wondering and obessing about this.
2006-09-19 20:13:59 · answer #4 · answered by burn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think it's a race issue. He obviously likes you as he keeps looking. He is possibly shy and hasn't got the courage to ask you out. why not make the first move. Ask him if he's interested in having a coffee wiht you at lunch. If that works out thatn you can suggest that he might like to go out with you.
2006-09-19 20:08:02 · answer #5 · answered by eddie_schaap 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes race can b a real drag. It depends on where u live, whether urz and his mind is open r wide shut, whoelse is in ur/his life that he needs approval of, and alot of other factors that society puts on us. But sometimes we can get past all that and talk to somebody of a differant race than rselves to find out about rself. Sometimes that can b a great thing, and generate tha relationship that blows all others out of tha water. Sometimes it can produce a relationship that never quits no matter what tha obstacle in front of us. R u willing to find out? If so than talk to him, if not then shut up and live in tha little box that society put u in and don't look past tha color of somebodys skin in fear of being in tha relationship of ur life.
2006-09-19 20:22:26 · answer #6 · answered by lifon_thedge 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like him and he likes you you shouldn't let race stand in your way. You both deserve to be happy.Take that next step and ask him out.
2006-09-19 20:08:23 · answer #7 · answered by mopjky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Funny if you were the same race, you might be saying something like, he likes me, but hasnt made an approach to me, what would you be worried of then? Your hair? your clothes?
Just be yourself. If it happens it happens.
2006-09-19 20:11:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he likes you I don't think race has anything to do with it. Ask him out.
2006-09-19 20:07:58 · answer #9 · answered by delta s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find out whether he likes or not.
Go up to him, smile, and while you ask him a question, gently put your hand on his arm. If he recoils like a snake, then you've got your answer. Otherwise, if he smiles back, you're in!
2006-09-19 20:08:14 · answer #10 · answered by RT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋