2006-09-19 12:59:13 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
support her for her brave decision to tell you the truth and because she is your daughter. be there for her.
2006-09-19 13:02:44 · answer #1 · answered by John 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to be open minded and not judgemental, because right now she needs you more then ever, it's bad enough that outsiders give her a hard time, the last thing she needs is the people she love the most to judge her. A mothers love is supposed to be unconditional. It's just like a persons ethnic race. You know a book was not placed in front of us with all sorts of colors and we were given the choice to pick which color we wanted to be. We are what we are and the color of are skin doesn't make the person we really are inside, it's the same with gay people. Let me ask you a question that should help you understand a little better. If your daughter was born with only one leg and three fingers instead of five would you love her any less or just except her as she is and love her all the same and maybe even more showing her that it's okay to be different. With your answer to this question in mind you decide from here.
2006-09-19 13:15:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she 18 yoa or older? Has she make this public and does she plan to go public? If so, there is nothing you can do. Either accept it and what it entails, or don't. Either way there could be consequences. Other family members may not want her around and you'll need to decide whether they are more important to you than your daughter. You may need to juggle family gatherings so she isn't present at all functions if you want to maintain relationships with other family members.
Are you willing to have her girlfriends over to your house for social gatherings? If not, will your daugher respect your rules in your house and still want to spend time with you?
There are support groups out there for people in your situation and you should contact them for advice. Search the internet.
2006-09-19 13:07:58 · answer #3 · answered by LadyLgl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep in mind that she's the same person she was a few days ago before you found out and that she still deserves all of your love and affection and acceptance and guidance. It's not about you and it's not that you did something wrong that made her that way, It's about her...the sooner you accept it the easier it will all be. Don't push her away...if you do, you may never get her back.
2006-09-19 14:19:15 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't say accept it, because you're not me.I don't know how you really feel about it. But I can say, try to be there for her so she won't have to go to an outsider. Talk to her about it, because it may be a phase she's going through trying to find out what she really wants. She may be experimenting with sex for all you know. If she doesn't come around, just try to be supportive of her decision, but let her know how it makes you feel. Your feelings should be considered too.
2006-09-19 13:53:57 · answer #5 · answered by chocollate_75 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be there for her she is still your daughter and you cant change the way she is. You can tell her you dont approve but she is not going to change her mind. She is who she is. And she probably needs your support. She may just be confused right now, just be there for her no matter what everyone needs to know someone loves them no matter what.
2006-09-19 13:05:08 · answer #6 · answered by bradosmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should support her decision, and let her do her own thing. If you try to force her in another direction, you might hurt your relationship with her and all around make everything worse. Let her be independant, but at the same time let her know that you are there for her if she ever needs you.
2006-09-19 13:08:29 · answer #7 · answered by nazidyke420 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give her a hug. Love her. Support her decisions. Do whatever you would do if she were straight. She is still your beloved daughter that did not change. Pray she finds someone she can love who will love her as much as you do.
2006-09-19 14:14:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love her, support her and thank her for confiding in you. There are worse things she could tell you. I having been living with a woman for 12 years. She is my best friend, my lover and my partner for life. I was married for 16 years before I met. Life is sweet now. Love what she loves or you will alienate her. Accept her for who she is. If you can do that you will have a rich life with her. Good luck.
2006-09-19 13:10:10 · answer #9 · answered by van 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
accept her for who she is. This doesn't change who she is as a person. It's only one aspect of her life. What if it was the other way around? would you want your daughter to accept you?
2006-09-19 13:08:50 · answer #10 · answered by latricia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just continue to love her like you always have. She hasn't CHANGED---only what you know about her has. I have a gay son, and it took a while to get over the shock, but I decided I love my son FAR more than I love society's foolish rules or judgmental yet ignorant people!!!
2006-09-19 13:25:15 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋