My daughter is KICKING BOYS between the legs!!!?

Question

I am a mother of a 15 year old girl. I was cleaning her room and I saw her diaries, I decided to take a little peek, and I discovered something shocking and disturbing, for what I can tell she have being kicking boys between the legs at least from the third grade until now! I had no idea! Her diary is full of stories about it. And the detail, names and dates, everything is registered. By her words I really can tell she loves it, and is almost like a hobby! She describes the boy’s physical and emotional suffering, and how hilarious she thinks it is and that sometimes….she gets wet!!! And that she and her girlfriends keep score!!!, and the different ways to do it, and that boys never hit back and how funny she thinks that is. I feel very sorry for the kids. Now that she is older, most of the times she pretends to be angry at something they did, she makes up excuses. I just could not continue to read anymore, it makes me want to cry.

She always seemed to me like a very sweet little girl. How am I going to tell my husband something like this? He is always telling how proud he is of his “little girl”!
I am not thinking straight, I need help here. Anyone had this problem before?

Chiricana:
When I was reading her diary I felt guilty but not anymore. To keep it short this is what I told her: A kid had to go to the Doctor and he told his mother what you have being doing and where do you live. It is sexual abuse and you can stop them from making babies or lose a testicle, you can be expelled from school or even go to a “boot camp”. You should only do it if you are all alone and a freak is trying to rape you or kill you. I could tell she was sorry but she was making stupid excuses like “I was just kidding” and “other girls do it”, until her Dad walked into the room; she stopped talking, her face turned very red and then started crying. Boys hate to hurt girls, but the first kid she kicked should had beaten her up after recovering, that way she would never do it again, and the other girls would be afraid too.

Answer 1

Tough situation... On one side, if she finds out you read her diaries, she'll be fuming and feel like all her privacy has been invaded, on the other hand, it definately needs to be addressed. My suggestion, and it may be a very bad one, but I'll say it anyway- "lie" to her, and tell her that a parent called you and told on her. That way you wont have to deal with the rage she might go into about reading her diaries, but you'll be able to address the issue. Sit down with your husband first and plan out everything you want to discuss with her. Sit her down and talk to her like an adult... It may also be time to give the "sex talk" if you haven't given it already. I'm sure she already knows everything, due to tv and our culture, but it's very important to hear healthy guidelines from parents...

Answer 2

I don't approve you reading your daughter's diary. That is something private and what you did was wrong. If you thought there was a problem why didn't you get her some help? Now that you know she has some kinda problem, get her some help. I would let your husband read what you read and let him make up his own mind about his little girl. Have you ever heard the saying daddy's girl, mommy's boy; well that's what you have on your hands there dear. A daddy's girl. I would talk to your family doctor about get her to a psychologist. She may be having some problems with boys at school that you don't know about. Has she had nightmares? Maybe there is more than that going on and she really needs to get the help she needs. Good Luck! And don't read the diary any more.

Answer 3

Well that is a very serious issue that needs to be fixed pronto. Approach you daughter with you husband is a non-threatening way and get to the root of the problem. If you did not know about this, then you do not know what else she does and you do not know her that well...(I don't mean to be rude, but it does seem that way) And remember because this is very important, she can get into serious trouble at high school for this kind of action ESPECIALLY if it is an excuse to do it just for the heck of it. And also remember to leave out the part of how you went through her private thoughts because that will give her an excuse to turn around the situation and use it to her advantage.

Answer 4

Well DO NOT tell her that you read her diary. That's a teenage girl's worst nightmare.

Just be aware that one day a guy will fight back and he may even get his friends to go too and they'll jump her. Then when she comes home with a black eye and a tooth missing she'll admit what she did wrong and she will have learned her lesson.

If you hear her talking about that at home or something talk with her about it and see WHY she is doing it-probably cuz she has nothing else better to do and wants attention from guys. Teach her that she IS getting attention from guys but some may NOT appreciate getting kicked in that area and instead of wanting to date her they may wanna spread the word about her and nobody will wanna be near her.

Answer 5

First of all...you SHOULDNT have been reading her diary...that is the ultimate betrayal of trust and i dont think ud appreciate her going thru ur personal things...my mother read my diary at 14...and i never again had trust in her...im now 28.
Secondly do u realise what is gonna come of it if u bring this up? The issue is going to be with you snooping not her actions...i agree she has a problem that needs to be dealt with...but u might just need to bide ur time before doing so.

Answer 6

as an 18 year old girl who kept diaries, maybe you shouldnt read her personal private things... my parents did that to me all my life and now I am not even living at home. i moved out when i was 17. BUT! it is good that you read what you read, Maybe you should try taking her to a shrink? or tell her that it hurts women just the same to get kicked between the legs... find these boys that are registered in her diary and talk to them, tell them to tell their friends to fight back... obviously she is not as sweet as you thought and she needs to get punished for her actions.

Answer 7

You and your husband need to plan out how to handle this and then confront her together. That is definitely not acceptable behavior and the sooner it's stopped the better before someone brings charges against her and you both as her parents.

Your daughter needs help mom.

Answer 8

You should definitely tell your husband and both of you have a talk with her. Tell her that maybe someday one of these guys might beat her butt. Not all of them are going to take it. Explain to her that she may cause them not to be able to have children, that should work. But you need to talk to her and stop her before it is to late. She might end up being someones punching bag one of these days. And she is going to seriously injure one of those boys.

Answer 9

1st u shouldnt have read her diary thats not what cool moms do! but that is a broblem and she could get into serious truble because of it. i would recomend maby talking to her about somthing along the lines of it but not exactly the same thing but that can be really hard to do with ur daughter. idk what else to say but im sry and that the kicking needs to stop no matter what!

Answer 10

Don't worry, She will eventually kick the wrong boy. Keep your homeowners personal injury insurance paid and up to date. I have a feeling you may need it.