High school blows, I'm the only one without friends, literally 0 friends?

Question

I am a freshman in high school, and just recently moved to this town. The whole town is obsessed with sports. I absolutely hate sports. I love music and art, but no one in this school is interested in any of that. I've had this social anxiety problem since 6th grade, and I can't stand it. No one in school talks to me, and I can't get up the courage to even say hi to people. I'ts like my voice is lost, and when I do speak it doesn't some out the way I want it to. I'm sick of being a loner and feeling depressed. Theres been a lot of family issues in my home, and I strongly believed that has helped influence the problem. I don't want to talk to my dad about this problem at all, I've tried, he just doesn't get it. I think he is worried about doctors putting me on meds. He doesn't want medication to harm me, whether it be addiction, or just harming my body in general. Any advice would be great. Please don't say join clubs, band. I didn't like band, tried it. Clubs r all sport

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2 minutes ago
I guess I forgot to state the obvious....I HAVE 00000000 FRIENDS!!!!!! I SIT ALONE AND THINK TO MYSELF ALL DAY!!!!! IT IS ****** BORING AND I AM SICK OF IT!!!!!!

18 minutes ago - 3 day(s) left to answer - 7 answers

Answer 1

Been there, done that. I know, high school can really suck. I'm 31 and have been through depression and social anxiety. I also have a 13-year-old son who has problems making friends. I know you said that you don't like clubs, but how about an art class in your town or something like that? I didn't really have friends for most of my life, and then it hit me, stop being shy, just try it, what's the worst that can happen...they tell me to get lost...okay, I'll try the next person, and the next person, and the next person. Find something you do enjoy doing, especially if there are other people around who also enjoy doing the same thing. For me it was roller skating, for my son it's Yu-Gi-Oh Tournaments, etc. Don't forget, I got over it and you will too....teenagers can be difficult (not you, the other guys), and when you're out of high school, nobody cares anymore who's cool and who's not cool...so, worst case scenario, get through the next few years and then it will be over, you'll be among more mature people in the workplace and whatnot....just don't sit around feeling sorry for yourself, it'll only make it worse. Hope I helped.

Answer 2

Well, first off you're not a nerd. When I was in high school I saw all the nerds sat together at like a nerd table. One nerd, actually he was a geek but that's beside the point, ran for class President and won. That school was overrun with nerds. He probably had 100 nerd friends.

Here are some suggestions. Learn how to fight. When I went to school the bullies always got the girl and had the most respect from their peers. Bruce Lee had as many friends as he wanted.

Learn how to play sports if it's a jock school. Maybe ask some people where all the cool parties are. What do you have to lose, right?

Answer 3

I REALLY feel for you, My son is 14 and also a Freshman, Fortunatly he is into sports which keeps him pretty busy. But since you don't like sports that's cool too. You said you like art and music...I'm NOT suggesting you join some boring school club, but you may want to look in your "new community" for some sort of activity that you like. Teen depression is a MAJOR problem and I'm sorry sweetie, but the more time you spend alone, bored, the more likely you are to do something drastic. Try talking to a counselor at school, let them know your interests and maybe they would know of some sort of club, band etc...ANYTHING you LIKE to keep you busy, All you need is ONE GOOD FRIEND! someone you can confide in, Not neccesarily a bunch of people, try looking around the lunchroom for someone that appears to be in your same situation and just try to start a conversation, you may find you have a lot in common, and as I said one good frind is worth way more than a ton of friends. I'm very sorry you can't communicate with your Dad, That's too bad, He needs to be a parent and notice you're hurting. Please talk to someone, even if you have to email me, being all alone is ROTTEN, I know, I've been there from time to time. So cheer up! Things will get better, Believe me! I know it seems bleek right now, but hold your head up. Let me know if you need anything!

Answer 4

I am so sad for you. I am 29 and I have had that same problem. there was times when I would sit and ask 'Why am I here?' better yet, why are they here?
I mean, I was teased to no end. I did, eventually, made some friends who was just as miserable as I was.
My suggestion is to look for those who prefer to sit by themselves and sit at their table. Meaning, find a table in your cafeteria that only has two people and ask to sit near them. Then, if they ask you the who's, what's, when's where's. and why's, just tell them.
So, let me repeat: Find a table during lunch that sits the "uncool" kids and try to start a conversation with them.
Another option: if you have a MySpace account or any place in that unfortunate hell hole you moved to, try to see if you can find other people who can't stand being around sports obsessed people with no life.
I really wish you luck, and, do not worry. When you graduate, you can get the hell out of there.

Answer 5

You said you love music and art. Visit the local art galleries, and the art museum. Ask the information desk for any pamphlets on upcoming events. You may be hanging with an older crowd of people at first, but I am sure they know younger people who share a love of art. As for your love of music, does your school have any programs that music is involved? Drama classes? Theatre? You can also look into the local radio stations, volunteer or get a part time job there, or at a music store or a place that sells instruments. Eventually you will make friends, and perhaps find that you too can create music and or art. Good luck.

Answer 6

I was never your kind of person. Can I tell you a little about me?
I was at a nursery school and my twin wasn't hanging out with anyone. I Asked her what was wrong, and she told me she had no friends. So I took her by the hand and yelled throughout the playyard, "My sister has no friends! COME BE MY SISTER'S FRIEND!!!" And totally left her as people went to play with her. Later that day, she had 6 new frineds.
There is hope. I'm not there to grab you by the hand and yell for you, so grab yourself by your hand. In my town, we love sprts too, but we are all different. We have a stong art program and music program as well. I write poetry. That is me. I do sports too. I understand you don't like sports, and you don't have to. Most of the time, I listen to the teacher lecture and think, but I talk and frolic with my friends. Not having friends sucks. You think to much. I've lost friends before, and all you do is think. I understand the pain. Can you take up art classes or music appreciation classes as electives? I know it may be hard, but try to sit with a group and add on to a conversation. I honestly want you to have the best. You can even maybe listen to clicks and see which group is for you. This may not help you, but don't worry, you are perfect, and I would kill to get to know you. There are plenty of other people who have certain trates you do, but may be willing to say hi. Maybe, I know this my be hard, but see if there are anyart shows for schools open soon or something. That way, you may make friends there.

Good luck! I know my answer sucked, but don't worry other people know! I feel for you!

Answer 7

I'm not going to tell you to just deal with it becaue you'll be out of high school in a few years. Those few years can drag if you have no friends. The obvious solution is for you to force yourself to come out of your shell and break the silence by saying hello to a fellow student. Trust me when I tell you... there's quite a few of you in your school... all feeling the same way you do. If you absolutely cannot bring yourself to say the first word, my advice would be to go to a teacher or counselor that you are comfortable with and explain to them that you would like to be introduced to someone with your interests. Let them know that you have an issue with making the first move... and feel that the teachers/counselors would be better knowledgeable about who shares your angst. At the very least... just talk to a guidance counselor just to get your bottled up feelings off your chest (if you don't want to go to your dad).
Another method is to post a note on a bulletin board (preferably in a venue you're interested in like art or wood shop, etc...) asking if anyone would like to team up and join the same interests. Make up an email address or IM name... and invite them for a chat. This way you can stay anonymous and still break the ice.
This all starts with you! I know how tough it can be to make that first move... but I promise you, once you do it and you see that you have it in you... you'll feel like the weight of the world is of your shoulders and you'll want to keep doing it. Each time you do, it builds your self confidence.
Without getting into too much detail... I'll tell you that I was horrendousely picked on, and disliked because of where I came from. I had absolutely NO friends & was terrified to even talk to anyone (for fear of getting my *** kicked). But I eventually took matters into my own hands and decided that I wasn't going to let the time just go by. I wanted to have friends to hang out with, and to experience school with. I eventually got up the nerve to say hello to a girl that I saw as a bit of a loner... and from there on, I just kept making friend after friend.
Just think of this... what's the worst that can happen if you go up to someone and say hello? You may get all choked up... big deal. You may break a sweat... so what! What if you manage to say "hi" and he responds back with the same... wouldn't you say to yourself... I've been nervous all this time for nothing! You could use the fact that you're new in town to break the ice. Just ask them some random question like "where's the library" or something of the sort... just to get the dialogue going. That way, you inderectly start the conversation. From there on, if you feel this person is someone you could be friends with... you can ask where are the best stores for sneakers or jeans in the neighborhood. You can use your fresh start to your advantage.

Answer 8

I won't lie. High School is hell for many people. It was for me. In the long run, your high school days won't matter. It is three years of your life you will forget very quickly when its over. Trust me on this. I'm 33 now, and I haven't thought about school in years. You will get out, do your thing, work, date have fun. I know its so hard on you now. It won't be forever.

Answer 9

The problem u refer to is known now to be rooted in the chemical imbalance of the brain, or to be more specific, the improper regulation of seratonin. Needless to say, it is an illness that deals with the complexity of the human brain, and is still not fully understood. My advice is for you to see a doctor, who is capable of making a proper diagnosis, and not listen to these people on the web who spew rubbish advice without having any inkling of the facts.

Answer 10

bug Ur 'rents to let u move schools or maybe just join in on the sport u might actually in joy it if i haven't helped sorry