I went out on a date with a really great guy Sunday night. He paid for my dinner, which I thought was really sweet. He was such a gentleman the whole night. :) We really hit it off, and he asked me out again for this weekend. We are going to dinner and then to the movies (or vice versa :P).
My question is, who pays for the date? How would you go about that?
2006-09-19 12:17:17 · 37 answers · asked by New mommy 2010! 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thanks for all the responses. :) I had thought about offering to pay for one or the other, so I guess that's what I'll do. :P
2006-09-19 12:25:31 · update #1
As a man, I always expect to pay for the date - whether it's the first or fifth. However, at some point it wouldn't hurt for you to offer to pay for the date. In fact, when a woman insists on paying for a date, it's a sign of confidence. Do keep in mind that if he does let you pay, it doesn't suggest he's not a gentleman.
2006-09-19 12:20:39 · answer #1 · answered by nljth123 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, normally I would say offer on the first date, and if he doesn't accept, you get one more chance to offer, but then back off. Since this was not the case, you are in a more difficult situation. My guess is to offer to pay...he will most likely say no, but at least you will have established some ground rules. You shouldn't have to offer again after that because you will already know that he is the type of guy who always pays for his lady. If you are under 21, however, this might not be the case. Guys under that age generally are not very well off and may have trouble always being the one to pay.
2006-09-19 12:21:47 · answer #2 · answered by Faith C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he asked you then he should pay. But always offer. Atleast it has worked for me. Plus if they accept then you know what kind of guy you are dealing with. And if he does accept then you should only pay for yours. What I usually say is "How much do I owe you?" then they usually say something like "Dont worry about it, nothing" and once again I always say "You are so sweet thank you so much. Atleast there are real men still out there" Or something to that effect. But if you ask him out then you might end up paying. Hey its only fair and it was your idea.
2006-09-19 12:21:45 · answer #3 · answered by Amber 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok. this one is an easy one! Yes he may have asked you to go on the date but never assume that he is going to pay or doesn't at least expect to see if you offter to help , because it could be a test. try when you go to the movies offer to pay for the concessions, or while at dinner offer to leave the tip. he may so no I got it but at least you put forth the effort . and if all goes well offer to cook him dinner to make up for his generosity!
2006-09-19 12:27:13 · answer #4 · answered by oakwood307 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he paid last time you should at least offer to pay for something dinner or the movie but the odds are that if he is a real gentleman he will say no don't worry about it I got it
2006-09-19 12:21:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy will always try to pay, but if you step in, he will appreciate you more.
First dates are like the Mcdonald's commercial on tv, looks better than it really is. So you man wont pay every single time you guys go out after you start dating (it be insane).
So prove to him you wont be a whole in his wallet.
2006-09-19 12:23:24 · answer #6 · answered by fcsgolden 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does, let him do what is natural for a real man and hopefully he will provide a good time and also good company. For future reference, if you make plans and you know he cant afford it, or you offer to take him out because you want to pay him back or want to contribute, surprise him. But if he truly cant afford it, consider where this is going and whether or not you like him enough to deal with being broke.
2006-09-19 12:24:41 · answer #7 · answered by matt z 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was taught who ever invites for an event pays for the event. dating is a whole different ball game though. just offer to pay for ice cream after the meal on your next date see how he responds, then youll know how your individual date feels about the subject
2006-09-19 12:22:57 · answer #8 · answered by mytwoboyz1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the OLD days the man was expected to pay if he asked you out. I suppose now you could come to an agreement on finances ahead of time. If it's a concern, just ask him beforehand and you can save yourself some awkward moments later.
2006-09-19 12:20:49 · answer #9 · answered by mopjky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This isn't 1950 anymore. If you have a job then offer to take turns and pay this time. You said he pretty much knocked you off your feet, then knock him off his by doing something that not to many other women do. Show you are an independant woman, not just another girl.
2006-09-19 12:21:59 · answer #10 · answered by dlobryan1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋