My boyfriend and I have been in love for 2 years. And he considers me apart of his family. We do everything together, work out, joke, read, debate, and drive to our spot by the Potomac river. His mom hates my presence in his life. I tried to win her over so many times and I gave up. This woman is unbealiveabl; she calls me racsit names in Spainsh and keeps on saying "I don't want any dark grandchildren from my son" My boyfriend has defended me against her and she even kicked him out for taking my side. Why does she hate me? Why can't she accept me?
2006-09-19 11:48:45 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She won't accept you because she is racist and you know that.
Obviously, your boyfriend doesn't care what she says because if he did, he wouldn't be with you. Be happy that he sticks up for you over his own mother and be happy your relationship is doing well dispite his mother.
I come from a latino family as well, my parents did not like me datinganyone that is black, they have friends that are black, but forbid me to DATE them. They think they're either players or wannabe thugs or drug dealers. I've went out with many black boys and my mother would scream at me in spanish that I better not have any kids because they'll have nappy hair. It's horrible but a lot of families are like that about different races. Lucky for them, I fell in love and am engaged with a puerto-rican man but I let my mom know when I was a young teen that if I fall in love, I'm gonna stay with that person, no matter what race.
Love see's no color. Our future generations will realize that.
2006-09-19 12:32:42 · answer #1 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's on your side. Super! Dont let your head worry over her narrow mind. Lots of inlaws are that way. Learn to live with the realization that not everyone is going to be made happy all the time. Its just not possible.
2006-09-19 11:54:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is older and she is that way. You really can not do anything about it. You can try to be the best person you can but I think you bf needs to sit down with her and let her know he is happy being with you. Also that she needs to accept you for you. This needs to be done in a calm manner. No yelling or name calling. Just tell him to tell her how he feels and if he really loves him, she will at least respect you.
2006-09-19 11:50:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
some mothers-in-law just don't accept their son's girlfriends or their daughter's boyfriends just because they don't want to. but if your mother-in-law is racist, don't let that discourage you from being with your boyfriend! obviously, if you have dealt with his mother's antics for 2 years, you care about him very much! some mothers can be stubborn and there is nothing you can do to change that. just be yourself and show her how much you care about her son, and sooner or later if you decide to get married, she will most likely give you her blessing. it may take time, but it will be that much sweeter in the end if you win her over! good luck!
2006-09-19 11:57:05 · answer #4 · answered by kaegan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are like that...but your man has been with you for 2 years chances are he is not going anywhere so just keep your distance from her and when you have kids she will come around.Babies do that to the old timers.Trust me I know.
2006-09-19 11:54:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kill her!! No seriously thank god his not like her just ignore her and keep living the way you are with him you cant have everyone like you there will be a time when she will need you and boy will she hate herself for treating you the way she does. She can help her brain is to small be thankful your were tought better.
2006-09-19 11:56:43 · answer #6 · answered by D'oh! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you have your boyfriends love and support don't worry about it. You are with him and not his mother. She will have to eventually have to learn to accept it or stay out of your lives. Good Luck!
2006-09-19 13:58:34 · answer #7 · answered by Desiree S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, this is going to be an obstacle between you two for the rest of her life.
as much of a ***** as she is, your boyfriend is going to feel torn between her and you.
you sound stressed out--and you have a right to be. i don't think this is going to be easy for the two of you and bringing children into the mix isn't going to help.
on the other hand--she's old and mean. she won't be around forever. so if you and this guy have something between you that's real---i'd go for it.
best of luck to you!
2006-09-19 11:53:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 03:56:59 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's old and stuck in her ways. You're not going to change her. If yall go on to have children, she'll forget everything when she sees them. And if she doesn't, then it's her loss when she never gets to see them.
2006-09-19 11:53:11 · answer #10 · answered by Manny 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋