If I am too big and ugly to survive in society. I had a growth hormone imbalance in my 20's should I do society a favour and bite the bullet or else give in to the bullshit and society and fit in by having surgery to look more aceptable. Money is not an option but I want to save my soul
2006-09-19 11:43:28 · 14 answers · asked by fsjock 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I was 85kg as a 20 year old and handsome and am now a freak 130 kg as a 28 year old, all my previous friends gave up on me and I alone. I am out of proportion physically and feel God wants me to come home
2006-09-19 11:53:10 · update #1
that is so sad, i hate when people are hurting, your friends were not true friends if they left you alone like that, how mean of them, I will be your friend if you want. I don't judge people, it doesn't matter what you look like you are here on earth for a reason, please don't hurt yourself. Email me if you want to, I will be there for you. I grew up being made fun of also. From kindergarten to 9th grade every single day people were mean to me, they didn't stop and think maybe i was a real person and had feelings inside. Society can be so cruel. If you ever need someone to talk to please don't hesitate to contact me! hugz!
2006-09-19 13:55:43 · answer #1 · answered by bobbie21brady 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please don't do anything drastic. Your soul is precious as is your life; it may not be easy, but you are a valuable person in your own right.
You sound as though you are judging yourself by society's standard; that will depress anyone, because society doesn't care about people. Do you have a good friend or a close relative that you can talk to?
Often we will find out that others that we know and respect don't see us in the same negative way. We tend to be much harder on ourselves than we would be on anyone else. Think what you would do for a friend or someone that you knew that is in your position.
Take care!
2006-09-19 18:52:41 · answer #2 · answered by kalyko13 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can tell just from some of the stupid answers here how society is !! They aren't worth listening to as a whole ! LOL
I agree that you need to stop comparing yourself to societies standards. That will depress ANYONE like the previous person said. OMG... I would get VERY depressed looking in magazines if I kept thinking that way !
You need to do something that makes you happy. Something that makes your life worth living. Do you really think we will be judged by what we look like in the end?? NO... it will be our relationships with people and the good things we do for others. You need to keep your brain busy with more meaningful things. Find something that makes you happy and do it. Animals love unconditionally....maybe you should do something to help animals. Donate time to a shelter or something like that !!
Good luck !
2006-09-19 18:58:03 · answer #3 · answered by tammykat_36 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The central question is, should you get plastic surgery? There's risk, money cost, and pain. Weigh those against the possible change in your looks. As Matthew Maltz says in _Psycho-cybernetics_, two people can have exactly the same plastic surgery and one will be delighted and the other will be depressed. Changing your looks won't change you inside.
Or consider this: What would Shrek do?
2006-09-19 19:02:39 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If God wants you to come home, God will take you home. It's not up to you. If you can afford surgery and you feel it would make you feel better about yourself, do it. But if you are okay with yourself, then you only need to find people who will accept you for who you are. There are a lot of us who don't judge others by how they look. I'm sorry you're hurting. I wish I could give you a hug.
2006-09-19 19:00:53 · answer #5 · answered by Hillaryforpresident 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please don't kill yourself! :( You know, your probably not the only person to suffer from a condition like this. Find a support group or convention. If money isn't an option, you won't mind having to travel. Plus, you'll save your soul, and have a group of people to flip off the world with you.
2006-09-19 22:22:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your not a freak, anyone that thinks you are.. are the freaks. Who cares what other people think, if you want to have surgery go ahead but do it for yourself. Not for others. If you are happy with the way you are forget about everyone else. Live your life for YOU!
2006-09-19 18:54:55 · answer #7 · answered by Mom 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why do you think your a freak is it because everybody else thinks you are. If it is then dont listen to everybody else forget about them and be happy, ignore them its hard i know. Dont kill yourself.
2006-09-19 18:52:08 · answer #8 · answered by Ashley A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get plastic surgery nomatter what anyone says everyone is judged on looks and nobody enjoys lookin at a big ugly person
2006-09-19 20:05:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Screw what everyone else thinks! You do what makes YOU happy. If you are happy living with yourself the way you are, then be it. If not, then it is your choice to change whatever you please! Good luck!
2006-09-19 18:54:06 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋