We are neither friends nor enemies, but it is a very small office in a small town.
2006-09-19 11:43:02 · 19 answers · asked by JustCurious 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Card and flowers - or a donation to a charity if it is mentioned. Attend a service.
2006-09-21 03:18:45 · answer #1 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would send a card to the lady from both your husband and yourself, maybe your husband could help with some small remarks about their working together, as at this emotional time, she might not be sure who all the cards are from.
I would get your husband to talk to other workers in the office, and see if they think that a joint wreath from the office would be appropriate, then if there is a charitable cause, more money could be given to that. I always feel flowers at a funeral give comfort to the whole family that the person was appreicated and will be missed.
2006-09-19 20:52:40 · answer #2 · answered by Breeze 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely send a sympathy card with an appropriate message "I am so sorry for your loss. You are in my thoughts and prayers" (or something like that).
Flowers are o.k. You may want to "go in" on a large arrangement with other co-workers. That depends on how you want to handle it. You may want to consider donating to a charity in the husband's name.
I bring this up because when my mom died in Feb of this year, we asked that donations be made to the hospice that cared for her the last year of her life. We felt the money was well spent at hospice rather than with flowers.
Either way, I am sure she will appreciate your thoughtfulness.
She will need a lot of support after the funeral. Kind words go a long way for encouragement.
2006-09-19 12:40:14 · answer #3 · answered by Malika 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go in with the rest of the office to get some nice flowers and a card. You dont want to spend a lot because you're not close and that's perfectly understandable. If you all get together you can get nicer flowers and pay less than if you each sent something.
2006-09-22 06:49:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send flowers from several of the people in the office ,with a card and a small collection of cash.Whatever you'll can all afford.
2006-09-19 11:52:18 · answer #5 · answered by painting? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A friend of ours just passed also, we gave them some big sandwiches, and a card. Also I lost a co-worked about six months ago, we were not close but talked sometimes. I just went to the wake and payed my respects. I hoped that was enough. I would say a card would do for you, just so long as you do something.
2006-09-19 11:56:26 · answer #6 · answered by tm 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband just died in April, I found just the simple gesture of offering condolences was enough. If you are within an office yourself a joint card signed by all is enough to let the person know everyone cares.
2006-09-19 11:49:32 · answer #7 · answered by michele_zanella 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Are there enough of you to take a collection for flowers? if not I'd sent a small plant, nothing to expensive and mail a card. Maybe you'll become friends. One can ever have to may.
2006-09-19 17:28:09 · answer #8 · answered by Classy Granny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is not stated in the obituary, then I would ask her what her preferences are: Would she like a donation to a society/charity in his name in lieu of flowers? She will let you know. At a minimum, a signed card would be very thoughtful. Best wishes.
2006-09-19 12:18:43 · answer #9 · answered by Rhonda 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it is a small office in a small town, I would give her a hug and let her cry on my shoulder as long and as often as she needs to. That is what she needs most right now.
2006-09-19 11:52:15 · answer #10 · answered by nana4dakids 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋